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You cannot be proud to be…

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whenim64 Sat 22-Feb-14 20:29:01

So they are, absent but it won't stop me bursting with pride every now and again. I suppose the meaning has shifted for many people, and I rather like the culture of sharing pleasure and pride about the achievements of family and friends. When I was young, the stiff upper lip of the older generation that I grew up amongst was pretty miserable. I remember my grandmother just saying 'huh!' when I ran into her house to tell her I has passed my 11+. She did love me, I know, but would never give an inch when anyone had something to celebrate.

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Ceesnan Sat 22-Feb-14 20:27:56

I don't understand why I can't be proud of my GDD's performance in the pantomime or my DS's degree? Why shouldn't I have pride in their achievements? Can someone explain please? Stumped sad

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Kiora Sat 22-Feb-14 20:27:19

Absent i'v just googled 'proud' and it quotes ' feelings of deep satisfaction of ones own or someone with whom one is closely associated with' perhaps I have the wrong end of the stick in your post but I take that to mean we can be proud of our families achievements. Is there another word we can use in place of proud?

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absent Sat 22-Feb-14 20:04:38

…Scottish, a woman or gay any more than you can be proud to be blue-eyed, naturally blonde and have long legs. These are random qualities. You cannot be proud of your daughter's PhD, your grandson's portrayal of a sheep in the nativity play or your son's promotion. These are their achievements, not yours. You can only be proud – if that's an emotion to which your susceptible – of things over which you have control – your own achievements, behaviour and, I suppose, possessions.

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