You cannot be proud to be…

Phew! Thanks for that Jingl

No!!! Can't! Sun's shining. Got to get my sorry ar sit-upon out and about a bit!

Laters.

jings If you return to the Daft Game another round has started. Your expertise is lost somewhere invaluable.

can't believe I'm back on this silly thread when there's a sunny day out there!

Last paragraph of postMon 24-Feb-14 23:35:47. That's when it got personal, rather than about the post.

It was janeainsworth. To avoid any more dreadful confusion.

God no!It's not you ceesnan! I agreed with you (and yours) Still do!

Just come back after a day away to find this state of affairs and I'm sure it's me that Jingl is pointing the finger at. In retrospect it was probably insensitive to pass on the opinion of my family, and if in doing so I have upset you Absent then I am sorry. However, I do think that by posting the statement without clarifying the meaning of pride to which you were referring was opening yourself up for negative comments. Peace!

Thank you bags.

Yes. Stop the Jingle bashing, folks.

Again.

I'm the only one who disagreed then? I don't think so!

I think another particular poster, naming no name, could be the one who turned it personally nasty.

Only from you, jingl

Putting the original post on a forum for grannies/nannas was rather asking for trouble.

Exactly When and for me these feelings are treasured in today's sense of pride as opposed to the OED sense. Not for me, for my family.

I've also thoroughly enjoyed this thread. I don't think I've changed my personal view on being proud, but it has set me thinking and am going to let it all filter through for a while. Perhaps it's because I've experienced shame that I find holding pride inhibiting.

...but I certainly embrace and hold my children's goodness and their place in this world with much happiness.

All is well then.

thatbags is the conclusion I have also reached – and what I was inquiring about in the first place.

I don't think proud is used much in that OED sense nowadays, absent. I'm not sure what such overweening opinion or inordinate self-esteem would be called – narcissism, maybe? – but I think that meaning for pride is, if not obsolete, then nearly so. Jane Austen might have agreed with that definition more than most of us. I think modern interpretations are milder, as much of this thread seems to be saying.

Yes, that's how I feel Agus. Bursting with pride at times, but try not to overdo it

I do think though When someone who is a modest character can still feel pride in their family but doesn't shout it from the rooftops.

Depending on the job too, there are occasions whereby people are expected to big themselves up to impress the interviewer, ie Salesmen/women and more so in the current employment climate.

absent this has been one of the better threads, IMHO. I'm not going to say anything about those who tried to disrupt it because I think they're best ignored.

Stick around long enough and you most certainly WILL .

REALLY! How come I have never seen any rude words?

I thought most of this thread was an interesting debate. Made me think a bit more about the different ways I express my feelings about my friends and family. Like janeainsworth says a little modesty impresses, too. The most memorable person I interviewed for a job working with women gave competent answers to everything the panel asked her, but blew us away when we asked her if there was anything else she'd like to tell us, and she said 'well, I worked voluntarily for a year helping a group of women set up a work cooperative to trade their craft goods in Malawi.' After listening to other unsuitable applicants bigging up their ability to listen or empathise, this young woman's modest description of what she did got her the job.

Kiora , you had better believe it , some posters do !!

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