I know its a long way off but its already causing anxiety!
I am an only child of 81 year old widowed mother who lives 200 miles away. We were always expected to go to her at Xmas and she is adept at emotional blackmail. Last year she came to us and will expect to do the same again this year.
However, my daughter has recently had second baby and needs a lot of practical help as her husband is disabled. In addition there are 3 older children from his former marriage who visit regularly. They would love to take all 5 children to Disneyworld next Xmas as a special treat for all. They have asked us to go too as they really need assistance.
How do I even broach this with my mother? Instead of this being an exciting and special event, I'm feeling riddled with guilt as she'll be "on her own" - yes she has friends and I know they'd invite her but that won't stop the guilt trip because she'll feel left out. She could come but has some health problems and can't walk far so I really don't know how we'd manage with so many physical and practical demands. I'm not sure she'd really want to make the trip but that won't stop her being difficult about it.
I thought about booking her a holiday in Uk or a hotel for Xmas to make it special but I'm not sure she'd go on her own. Does anyone know of any good places?
I know this sounds selfish but I can only support my daughter and family or my mother on this occasion. Quite honestly I'm getting a bit tired of feeling pulled at both ends!
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