Is it Ok to give my granddaughters things to eat? We have granddaughters 3 & 6, they live in another state; we see them 4-5 times a year. We used to follow & get photos from Facebook, now I'm unfriended. Every time I give them something to eat (meal, snack or treat) my daughter n law starts things. She tells our son, then he jumps all over me. I don't know what to do anymore. We went for a Christmas visit. On Christmas Eve the 3 year old ask for a cookie. I ask what kind she would like; she picked a plain Christmas sugar cookie. I was sreamed at. It ruined the whole trip & holiday. Both our son & his wife are still mad at us. We get nasty notes & email: we're unfriended of Facebook. I've told them I 'm sorry it all happened, but I think a Grandparent should be able to gave a Grandchild a snack or a treat. Am I being an unreasonable Grandma?