demanding husband

I am not a morning person but DH was the sort who would leap out of bed in the morning full of the joys! When we were first married he would start asking questions and issuing instructions for the day - until I told him this was grounds for divorce! After that he would quietly bring me a cup of coffee and not speak until this had been consumed by which time I could remember my name

Should have read s***ing know yet

DD dropped of my brand new laptop that she had set up for me ( I could have done it but she wanted to 'play') he unpacked it whilst I was preparing Sunday lunch. "Where do you want to keep the charger, where are you going to put the laptop?' he called from the lounge.
'I don't * know yet' I shouted back.

OGM another one full of damn fool questions

Cressida - I can identify with that. I worked in our city centre for 37 years. DH hardly visited the place. When he retired he had to go into town about twice a week. Then when we visited together on the odd occasion he was ordering me about, telling me the best way to get to certain places. He knew all about the buses although he hadn't been on a bus for over 30 years and I used them every day. I said to him once in frustration 'I BLOODY KNOW, I'VE WORKED HERE FOR NEARLY 40 YEARS!' He's lovely really though

Mine once met me as was walking back from the shops because he thought I might have forgotten to get a particular item. I hadn't!!

It infuriated me as I'd been managing to remember the shopping all by myself for years.

He was 39 and had recently left the Royal Navy after 20 years!!

hermia its such a fine line after years of being in contact with people from his work place he must feel like a spare part and is trying his best to fit into your routine,things will ease with time and a bit of selective hearing,tell him gently you need an hour to get yourself to-gether in the mornings and things will get better I'm sure.

Reading your comments I have finally realised my husband is normal he does all of the above.

I roared with laughter at an item on the BBC breakfast programme - supposedly about MOTs. Members of the public were being asked whether they checked their cars before they put them in for MOTs(evidently many cars fail on simple basics). A lady , without a hint of irony said - 'Oh men are forever looking under the bonnet and not knowing what they are looking for'.....a metaphor for so much I thought!

Mine was the same when he first retired. Every time he heard a car door slam shut outside he would look at me and say 'who's that?' Now where did I put my crystal ball...... Thankfully he got voluntary work and he's a lot better now.

It's the 'damn fool questions' that get me...... answers could be found by 1) either of us, not just me
2) bothering to read labels/instructions
3) engaging brain....
Rant over!

Mine will even "summon" me up to his study to show me something on the computer. I think it might be their idea of "sharing" (we have GN for that) but as nonu says - welcome to our world!!

Mines the same. He has a knack of waiting until I'm walking away to call me back because he wants to show me something when only a few seconds earlier I was standing right beside him.

I think this is definitely a retirement thing. After three years I'm becoming very good at pretending to be deaf.

Welcome to the world of retired husbands .

If it any consolation , they do get better at it , but maybe for some of them it is not having the structure of a working day , so feel slightly uneasy !

It usually comes right in the end !

quick not quite

I think that's a man thing. My DH is a bit like it.

You can either try to point out that this gets on your nerves, which could cause strife, or just take a quite look and say "oh yes" or "umm". I do the latter.