I do feel Smileless for anyone with a split family, I truly never thought it could happen to us, I know we cannot choose our childrens partners but oh how this one female has changed our lives, he tells me he loves her one minute, then he is only with her cause he has nowhere else to go and that at his age he doesn't want to live with his parents,unfortunately he has told his daughter the same thing, then I discovered through a social media site that they have got engaged and are getting married, he knows how much we love him and he tells me how much he wants us at his wedding and to part of his new babies life, trouble is he is such a contradiction and I just don't know how to deal with him, his ex-wife had two children from a previous relationship and they grew up as part of our family, at 21 and 24 we are still Nannie and Granddad but they won't have anything to do with my son, it kills me that the 21yr old who is in the Royal Navy walks past my son in the street even though for 12 yrs he was his 'Dad',
My son knows that I despise his partner although I made a huge effort and was quite friendly with her up until she hit him for the 3rd or 4th time......... to his credit he has never to my knowledge hit her back but if we had a daughter and her partner hit her, believe me I swear my husband would end up in prison.
I'm frightened that he will manipulate my gd into believing that it is our fault this is happening........in the past he has pretended to be depressed in front of her so she would accept his girlfriend, and bless her heart she worrys about him and wants him to be happy, so he can easily persuade her into feeling sorry for him and blaming us, the poor girl is so confused she knows her dad lies and causes trouble but she loves him.
I am spending all my time worrying and my husband is sick of it all , he has told me not to contact my son and I haven't but it is Fathers Day on Sunday and I am so scared he will turn up like nothing has happened and my husband will let into him.
His girlfriend has sent me a text that is so patronizing I cannot bring myself to answer her, she tells me I should be proud of my son and that she didn't realize she snubbed the night my husband was rushed into hospital......... but believe me she knew what she was doing she is to be blunt a f**k you sort of girl.
I just feel if I contact him we will be here again in a few weeks with me on anti-depressants, I pray that he will get some help and revert to the once lovely son he was before all this happened