to think it's remarkable how little traffic there is on the AIBU board here compared to mumsnet...

On GN that is, I never venture over to the other side

posts are from people who aren't being unreasonable

So that's why it's quieter

All the people who ARE being unreasonable - on MN they would post (because they think they are not), on GN they don't post (because they know that they are).

You've got it Trillian. I quite often know I'm being unreasonable but I don't want to be told I am. That would spoil the fun! Much better to carry on feeling hard done by and misunderstood

Nightowl

PS MNetters I hope some of you do stay I find you very refreshing.

nightowl

anya you are allowed to come to MN you know

But it's lovely of you to say we are 'refreshing' and you'd like us to stay. Well, you'd like them to stay anyway - me probably not so much!!

I agree with Anya, I'd like you to stay as well.

As for venturing on to MN, I'm not brave enough. I'm scared of DD so a whole forum of you

Or AIBU?

Obviously it's only the nice ones who have come over

Do we get voted over by a panel or do we deem ourselves as nice ?

Do we have to go before the MN panel, or can we deem ourselves as nice enough ???

Ooops ! How did that happen.

nightowl there are lots of lovely bits of MN, it's not all 'AIBU'. There are quite a few 'irritating widgets' over there, but lots of nice people too

nina you're in (I'd drop the nana if you come over though!)

Obviously

Oops, sorry, Trill was the last post when I posted

At this age, we (as a group) have fewer irritants... fewer PIL (due to the passage of time), fewer DC living at home, less school dramas (no more school runs - Yay..!) and these make up a good chunk of the threads on AIBU over on MN.
As a pp said, sometimes, you can feel hard done by - and then you read a few posts from people in much worst situations than you, and suddenly feel all cheerful about your own life

MN aibu really isn't my cup of tea. I'm often just a lurker and harsh though it can be, I'm always cheered by the regulars who make a stand for common sense and reasonableness. Maryz, chipping, AF and the rest.

It's definitely very Zen and chilled out over here. I like it.

To use a very worn-out cliche... we've been there, done it,bought the T-shirt. Our unreasonables are probably not as dire or life destroying as we might have seen them 30 odd years ago. Things still irritate me...like mad...so don't get me started on the mangling of the English language for example, but I guess we just just tend to roll with life as we foresee the end of it... not that any of us intend to go for years yet.

I do think MN-AIBU could do with less prominence. It's a magnet for goaders and trolls and folk who like a good pile on. And people assume that it sets the tone for the entire site

Surely you don't need to have a certain amount of life experience to know when you're being a complete prat? I think issues that are borderline/in need of more tact and diplomacy would be better off on chat, anyway.

and of course we are not fixated by facebook (own up if you are ) and the business of befriending, unfriending, and the rest.
we managed quite well before social media and its hangups but I guess that is an age thing.

I have a pretty good idea whether or not I'm being unreasonable. And someone telling me on AIBU that I'm am, in fact, being unreasonable is not likely to change my attitude anyway.

So I guess I don't see the point.

urgh. that I AM... not I'm am... obviously typing one handed with coffee in the other hand does not work well for me

no matter how crazy, unreasonable and hard-to-deal-with your own family is being, you can usually find some perspective by seeing how lucky you are compared to some!

I went through a phase of watching Jeremy Kyle (the dark overlord of daytime tv) for those very reasons.

Much better to carry on feeling hard done by and misunderstood

Lovely to "meet" you all! Yes, I just know when I am being unreasonable (doesn't stop me, though...)

I think the posts on here that can be the most confrontational tend to be on politics, newspapers, in fact issues that challenge people's deeply held beliefs.

(I am resting quietly in a beautiful hotel in a Devon recovering from last night's party preparing for food, drink and dancing tonight.)