to think it's remarkable how little traffic there is on the AIBU board here compared to mumsnet...

You've got it Trillian. I quite often know I'm being unreasonable but I don't want to be told I am. That would spoil the fun! Much better to carry on feeling hard done by and misunderstood

posts are from people who aren't being unreasonable

So that's why it's quieter

All the people who ARE being unreasonable - on MN they would post (because they think they are not), on GN they don't post (because they know that they are).

On GN that is, I never venture over to the other side

I'd say most AIBU posts are from people who aren't being unreasonable Trillian

I love the AIBU threads on Mnet for its comic value.

Maybe by the time we are grans we KNOW we are being unreasonable so don't want to draw attention to it?

AIBU just makes me feel unsettled if I read it. I don't like that aspect of MN. So for me, GN is about right in tone and I shall be staying.

I also like the relative lack of sponsored threads and stickies and lack of garish ads all over the place although I am sure that will change as the place gears up.

I confess to posting on AIBU thread knowing the answer but just using it as a method of 'getting it off my chest'

Does that make me a drama queen ??

But how many of them are there compared with how many of us? You would have to look at it in proportion. (Ignoring the influx caused by the great GN competition.)

I also think that maybe as you get older your experience and wisdom kicks in. You learn by that experience. Not that I am always calm and rational.

Lona I'm enjoy a whole morning of not dashing about, after a week of school runs, babysitting and childminding, so I'm using every bit of my keyboard! ....,,,,,,,?????((((((@@@@@@.......and a ������for good measure!

Got grandchildren visiting after lunch, but their parents can do all the running round this time

How sad littleflo

I believe it is because our generation were brought up not to air our problems. The wonderful thing about this site is that people can ask for help without feeling vulnerable to ridicule.

I have never had any one to tell my problems to. Even though I have had a long marriage and get on very well with my children, I would never be able to tell my husband, kids or friends about the downsides of my life.

What thatbags said plus perhaps fewer of us are drama queens (if we ever were in the first place) bleating to the sisterhood looking for sympathy (ouch!).

For my part, I can recognise a drama queen at 50 paces and I avoid them like the plague. Having to deal with one on a forum would be my worst nightmare.

when are you ok? You seem to have come out in a rash of ,,,,,,,,,,,,s!

Serenity!?!? That's a first! When I grow up, I want to be serene. Stay around and watch when all the Gransnetters come out to play. We're fairly sedate at this time of day, but Saturday night!,,,,,,,,,,that's another matter entirely

I do love to scan the MN AIBU columns and lurk with horror and fascination at other people's lives and I must admit I look at some of the young mums around and about who I see and wonder if it is all as awful as they make out. Some on MN are old ,at least 50, [provocation emoticon]but I am surprised that anyone has come over here for the day as the threads all seem to be hips and dribble at the moment and not very enticing. We could do with a couple more JBRs

I think I shall look forward to developing the serenity to not develop IABU-level frustrations, and the confidence to know that IANBU when I do.

But it's also the most surefire entertaining area of the site, because we all love to hear about these dramas and see them developing as the OP either follows or chooses not to follow the advice given. And it's reassuring to have a browse there too because no matter how crazy, unreasonable and hard-to-deal-with your own family is being, you can usually find some perspective by seeing how lucky you are compared to some!

Why sweat the little things?

Besides much of the time to the AIBU questions asked I just want to shout YES! So I say nought

An interesting thread.

As a long time lurker on MN and only occasional poster, for me there are a couple of reasons why I don't ask AIBU.

The first is that, for whatever reason, call it confidence and maturity or plain arrogance, I don't need anyone else to confirm what I do/say as R or U. Obviously, I'm the soul of sweet reason at all times............

The second is lack of time. I have a quick scan of MN/GN with an early morning cuppa, but don't have time to respond or to visit the rest of the day. This reply has taken me over my 8am deadline for getting on with a busy day

as you age you worry less about the 'small stuff' and get on with life
so many AIBU are met with quite abrasive replies (whether the OP is 'goady' or not) I do wonder anyone dares to post their true feelings - happens a bit on here too
but do admit to reading some of the threads on there that are light-hearted and make me smile

[Grin] dammit!!

Certainly let the bad stuff roll on by especially family dramas, this stuff always looks less important in the cold light of day. Besides we have to conserve our energies for the important stuff like making it out of bed in the mornings {grin}

Think yourself lucky we are not telling you about the real rubbish that comes with later life, you would be distraught then.

BUT

THE KIDS HAVE LEFT HOME

Well that's disappointing. I was hoping that a little later in life I'd not be posting on AIBU because I would be revelling in knowing I was unreasonable. And now you tell me it isn't like that??!?! <<sob>>

What bags said!