FEUDING DAUGHTERS,,,,,advice please,,,

Perhaps if you choose your own 'thing' to enjoy at Christmas your DD's might either take the hump or waken up to the fact you have a life apart from them. Don't go berating yourself about their individual behaviours you've done your part and I'm sure done it well. It's time for you to enjoy special moments Remove the negatives and enjoy the positives.

A friend of mine is going away for Christmas with two other ladies. She was nervous about telling her family but they were o.k. about it.

Perhaps their feuding is a sort of upmanship? If you do as granjura says and remove yourselves from the argument it may mean you all have a separate Christmas's but happy ones and next year, who knows?

Why don't you do what you want to do, what you say you feel like doing, and spend the day somewhere else, with your husband and without them? Spending xmas day in a 'conventional' way is not obligatory.

I'm wondering how old these daughters are ?

I too are of the mind that you tell them they need to sort things out between themselves and not use you as a go between. Explain that you will not choose between them so will be spending Christmas quietly with your Husband and any one else who is willing to make it a pleasant experience.

My friend goes away on her own every Christmas because she feels she can't get it right with her family - she has a great time. Might be an idea.

Angie I think you have two choices.
As others have said, you can tell both your DDs that you are so upset and hurt by their behaviour that you have decided to spend Christmas just with your DH.

The other choice is to invite them both, with their partners, but make it clear that they are expected to behave themselves. If one of them decides not to come, it's her choice.

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What a dreadful 'pig in the middle' situation to be in- that is dreadful. But I agree with the others above- you should try and find the strength to say, quietly and calmly' that you love them both and always will- but that you just can't be pig in the middle anymore, and just won't do it- and that, therefore, if they can't be civil- then you will indeed spend Christmas on your own with OH- or even go away on holiday to the sun, or wherever, if you can afford to go away- even a simple Hôtel somewhere in the UK, or friends. It's just too hard- don't get angry- just tell them how you feel, and just can't do this anymore.

Really, really feel for you.

...may join you in that hotel, angie ....families, eh???

Maybe you should tell them how you feel and if they can't 'be nice' for the sake of a nice peaceful Christmas then maybe they should spend it in their own place and you have a nice quiet one with your husband. Perhaps when they realise you are serious then maybe they will think again.

personally I would spend Christmas on my own, and totally indulge myself.

Just think of the peace, quiet and stress free time you would have.