A rather difficult situation has arisen.
I have not seen or been in touch with my distant cousin for 50 years and suddenly he gets in touch with me via Friends Reunited, which I haven't used for years.
He had emailed to say his Mum, one of my last living older relatives was nearing her final hours. I am very fond of her and have always kept in touch. I know at almost 90 she is ready to go so I am relieved for her.
At this point I need to give you a bit of the background story, my cousin has led a notoriously odd and unusual life which alienated him from his entire family and he has led a life of his choice with little contact with anyone we know.
I responded to his email in a positive way and he replied thanking me for being friendly. It turns out like DH and myself, he is interested in Family History. When I showed an interest he has emailed me lots of useful info which has filled in a lot of gaps about the family.
In my usual open way I told him about my family and sent him a family photo of my DS's 40th. I noticed he has made no comments at all on my bits of family news.
The bit that worries me is that he did some awful things to his parents over the years which distressed them terribly. E.G. Sending them a wreath as if one of them was dead - creepy. Silent phone calls etc.
I do not intend letting him have my phone number, but he could easily find it. He lives miles from me. I just wonder if in my usual naivety I have opened myself up to problems.
He seemed so nice in the email. I think once he has told me of his mum's death I will cease contact.
Sorry I have gone on a bit, but I felt I needed to share it with you.
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