It is time to quantify the terrible development in our increasingly secular family lives, the pain and heartache faced by those who have been 'cut out' of their Children's and Grandchildren's lives. Please, whether it was for a brief and now resolved, or extended or as in my case, repeated period, could you add your story, just one entry per tragic tale. It is something that our sociologists should start researching as it is clearly a very damaging development to all sides, hence the silence that shrouds the pain. I personally have lost access rights to my grandchildren, and I have no doubt about the loss and pain I suffer but also the positive influence and confidence gained by small children from their interaction with loving grandparents (already measured) is ignored as a right of the young. So why hasn't this society taken steps to ensure that such damaging behaviours are limited for the sake of the children; it is their way to connect with their histories and for many, it has led to the inspiration behind many many great lives. It may be painful but I think that this is an invisible infection which has taken hold in an ever-increasing "disposable"society. It might be useful to explain what you feel lies behind the terrible decision to stop talking and what you feel might be the answer in your case. Also how you cope/coped with the prolonged or short periods of estrangement.
Thank you if you can let your story be counted.
Unbelievable notanan, in the light of your posts on this thread you have the nerve to accuse others of lacking in empathy and being judgemental 
. Well thanks for making me laugh.
For the record, some fathers DO find maintaining contact with their children virtually impossible if their ex wife or partner doesn't want them to do so. The withdrawal of legal aid for contact cases has resulted in many being unable to afford the legal costs to pursue their cases through the courts. Of course it isn't just mothers who out their own grievances before the rights of their children, fathers are just as capable of such selfishness.
As my example of my husband's friend clearly demonstrated, it IS possible for GP's to see their GC even if their AC want nothing to do with them. Sadly for many of us there are many AC who are so entrenched in their unfounded bitterness and resentment that they use their children as weapons.
We know our ES and his wife have no justification in preventing us from seeing our GC. His entire family knows this to be true as do several of his friends. We've asked if we can see them and been ignored. We've asked why we can't see them and been ignored.
As for being able to communicate the needs and welfare to GP's if they are seeing their GC but have no relationship with their GC's parents, if there's a will, there's a way.
As most of us accept because we have the maturity to do so, if a contact order is made by the courts and the parent the child is living with doesn't make that child available, the only course of action is return to court.
Notanan
'Privilige' didn't facilitate my travel. WORK did. 
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