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New update on my reclusive neighbours.....

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AlieOxon Mon 27-Apr-15 17:28:51

Today they set their kitchen on fire.
First I knew of it was a knock on my door from other neighbours who had already rung 999. Smoke billowing out of their front door next to mine.
There have been three fire engines, two ambulances and two police cars here all afternoon.....the man next door has gone to hospital and the paramedics spent ages I think trying to persuade the woman not to stay in the house tonight...she sat on the fire engine step for about two hours... ....but eventually she went back in.

Firemen had to check my loft for smoke. My house is smoky.
I have been staying out of it..these people are too weird for me to deal with. Not happy with this situation though.
I just went out to get an update from a fireman, and apparently various people will now be involved in the next few days and I have been asked to ring environmental health tomorrow.
Could also ring councillor who helped before!

AIBU to dread having to go on living next door to them?

annodomini Wed 06-May-15 12:20:26

Alie, your family must be in turmoil and it's so hard to stay strong for all of them when you yourself are immeasurably sad. flowers

harrigran Wed 06-May-15 12:17:49

Alie flowers

AlieOxon Wed 06-May-15 12:08:13

Thank you all.

I am now having to go to and fro to Oxford and try and help family members....myself I find that grief comes and goes, yesterday was not too bad, today has not started off well but I think when I talk to people again I may feel better.

mrshat Tue 05-May-15 16:53:00

How very sad for you ali. I've only just logged on since last week. Deepest sympathy to you and your family. Such a shock. Keep strong flowers

ginny Tue 05-May-15 08:41:37

So sorry to hear this sad news.

rubylady Tue 05-May-15 01:31:12

Alie Sending deep condolences on hearing your news. Look after yourself. flowers

POGS Mon 04-May-15 19:02:14

Alie

Sending you and your family genuine thoughts of love and understanding at this time of family crisis, just awful news.

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AlieOxon Mon 04-May-15 17:35:03

Thank you everyone...I am going over to Oxford tomorrow

rosesarered Mon 04-May-15 13:58:47

Alie, such terrible news for you and your family.At least the grandchildren have you to comfort them.flowers

Katek Mon 04-May-15 13:19:20

Alie....so very, very sorry to hear your sad news. Sincere condolences to you and your family. xx

Anne58 Mon 04-May-15 12:01:00

Alie, sending every good wish to you and your family.

JoyBloggs Mon 04-May-15 11:38:11

Alie Such tragic news... sending my sincere condolences.

Crafting Mon 04-May-15 11:35:08

Oh Alie I have only just heard your sad news. You must be heartbroken. I am so very sorry for you and your family. Sincere condolences. You will be in my prayers flowers

Elegran Mon 04-May-15 10:24:41

That is terrible for you and all your family , Alie It puts all our small irritations into perspective. So sorry to hear it

Mishap Mon 04-May-15 10:16:43

I woke up thinking of you this morning Alie - so very sad for you and all her family flowers

rosequartz Mon 04-May-15 09:29:01

alie I am so very sorry to hear your sad news. Many condolences to you and the family.
Words are inadequate
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thatbags Mon 04-May-15 09:04:38

alie, I'm very sorry to hear this sad news. Thinking of you flowers

hildajenniJ Mon 04-May-15 08:30:27

Oh Alie how shocked you all must be. Having your support will be of comfort to Jayne's family. Stay strong, we are all thinking of you. flowers

ffinnochio Mon 04-May-15 08:29:08

Alie Sending you my deepest condolences. flowers

suzied Mon 04-May-15 08:28:09

A sudden death is always devastating, bewildering and unbelievable. I am thinking of you as our family experienced the sudden death of a young member 2 years ago. You have to be there for each other. X

Anya Mon 04-May-15 08:21:51

Alie sudden death is such a shock, it comes out of the blue and leaves us feeling 'this can't be happening'. Don't let anyone tell you how you should be feeling, we all deal with grief in different ways.

You will find your own way through this, somehow, but it will be a long journey. Your friends on GN will be here for you I know ((((hugs))))

kittylester Mon 04-May-15 08:18:06

How awful for you all Alie. Sincere condolences. Stay in touch with us all! flowers

Soutra Mon 04-May-15 08:16:47

Alie, I am struggling to find the words to express my sorrow at your sad loss but send you all my sympathy and condolences. You have been in my thoughts since hearing of your loss yesterday and I just wanted to say how very very much I am feeling for you and Jayne's partner and children.
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AlieOxon Mon 04-May-15 07:38:25

I am only half convinced she is gone, even though I have seen her. I find I don't know what to do with myself.

It's absolute devastation for the family. In some ways she was at the centre of it. She leaves 3 grown children, one of 14 and a baby of six months. Her partner is completely stunned. They were very much in love.

She had a very rare kidney condition called Gitelmans which I have only just discovered, online, can cause sudden death because it can affect the heart. I think the doctors are only just finding this out too.

Thank you, everyone, for the messages.

MiniMouse Sun 03-May-15 23:45:41

I'm so very sorry to hear your news AlieO flowers