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New update on my reclusive neighbours.....

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AlieOxon Mon 27-Apr-15 17:28:51

Today they set their kitchen on fire.
First I knew of it was a knock on my door from other neighbours who had already rung 999. Smoke billowing out of their front door next to mine.
There have been three fire engines, two ambulances and two police cars here all afternoon.....the man next door has gone to hospital and the paramedics spent ages I think trying to persuade the woman not to stay in the house tonight...she sat on the fire engine step for about two hours... ....but eventually she went back in.

Firemen had to check my loft for smoke. My house is smoky.
I have been staying out of it..these people are too weird for me to deal with. Not happy with this situation though.
I just went out to get an update from a fireman, and apparently various people will now be involved in the next few days and I have been asked to ring environmental health tomorrow.
Could also ring councillor who helped before!

AIBU to dread having to go on living next door to them?

Mishap Wed 06-May-15 16:07:28

Do take time to look after yourself too Alie flowers

AlieOxon Wed 06-May-15 22:25:24

Just back from Oxford again....think some things are sorted out but more to come.Oh what a business!!
Thank you everybody.

merlotgran Wed 06-May-15 22:38:36

Sending you my best wishes, Alie I hope you manage to get some sleep.

whenim64 Wed 06-May-15 22:53:48

What a tough time you're having, Alie. Sending you my best wishes flowers

Tegan Wed 06-May-15 23:06:32

Still thinking of you, Alie. Take care.

AlieOxon Fri 08-May-15 15:55:13

Thanks - Alie

jinglbellsfrocks Fri 08-May-15 16:27:45

The very worst thing to have to cope with Alie. flowers

AlieOxon Sun 10-May-15 21:18:27

Last night I spent about an hour on the phone to the Samaritans...both helpful friends here are away! I cried a lot.
But the man on the phone was so patient, and when I hung up I felt somehow lighter.

Today I have been in Oxford again and Jayne's partner was in a bit of a state, but things did improve, there were friendly visitors (family) and he has just texted me goodnight.
Tomorrow back again, and there will be a discussion about when/where/what as regards the funeral.....

whitewave Sun 10-May-15 21:23:18

Oh Allie - how are the children coping?

Mishap Sun 10-May-15 21:38:01

Alie - I am so glad that the listening ear of a Samaritan helped you through last night - how good that they are there. You can let it out to someone who is not also grieving.

Your son's partner sounds as though he is really appreciating your support.

Thinking of you.

Tegan Sun 10-May-15 22:38:44

Let us know when the funeral is; we can, at least, be with you in spirit.

Marelli Sun 10-May-15 22:57:05

Thought about you a lot, Alie, over the last few days. Look after yourself. xx

harrigran Sun 10-May-15 23:22:37

Thinking of you Alie.

MariClaire Mon 11-May-15 07:17:15

I'm so sad for your loss, Alie. You are in my thoughts, and I'm sending hugs too. Please try to take good care of yourself flowers

Riverwalk Mon 11-May-15 07:22:54

I'm so very sorry to hear of this Alie - glad that The Samaritans were able to help you in your time of need flowers

Ariadne Mon 11-May-15 09:03:19

You are a strong woman, dear Alie but this is such a hard time for you, and you know we are all with you in spirit. I am glad the Samaritians are walking with you too. Sending my love.

Lona Mon 11-May-15 09:10:39

Alie my thoughts are with you too, it must be so difficult having to deal with all the things that need sorting out, when you must just want to grieve.
flowers look after yourself (hugs)

Agus Mon 11-May-15 09:25:01

You're in my thoughts dear Alie. just wish I could do more to help. ((((Hugs))))

glassortwo Mon 11-May-15 09:26:30

Alie thinking of you {{{hug}}}

whenim64 Mon 11-May-15 09:34:56

I'm glad the Samaritans were able to lift you up a little, Alie. We're all here ready to provide that virtual arm round your shoulder and to listen. flowers

POGS Mon 11-May-15 10:18:33

Alie

Allow me to send continued thoughts of understanding your sadness and the duties involved when this happens. Such an awful time for Jayne's partner and children, your loved ones .

I wish you and your family eventual peace but for now do try to take of yourself .

AlieOxon Mon 11-May-15 10:40:22

I'm trying. Thank you all

MiniMouse Mon 11-May-15 11:56:45

AlieO Please make sure that you take care of YOU! I think that's the one thing that we all tend to forget in our anxiety to ensure that everyone else is all right!

AlieOxon Sun 19-Jul-15 17:14:58

New update here on the neighbours!
This afternoon I have seen my woman neighbour going off in what looked like a small removal van. Did not see the man, although I have been told he came back from hospital a week ago.

It rather looks as if they might have left, at least temporarily.
What next? If the house gets boarded up then they are definitely not there!

loopylou Sun 19-Jul-15 17:45:36

Fingers crossed AlieO that they have been rehoused or whatever, at least that'll be one less thing to worry about...... ((Hugs)) x