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How very rude!

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sunseeker Wed 05-Aug-15 11:06:56

That was bad manners. My sister in law runs a business and whenever she comes to visit (or I visit her) her phone is never far from her side BUT if she gets a text or a call she checks who it is from and if she doesn't think it needs her immediate attention she ignores it. She has on occasion answered a call or replied to a text but always apologises and explains it is urgent. I don't have anyone I need to speak to or text urgently so whenever I am with someone the phone is switched off - in fact it is switched off most of the time!

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Anne58 Wed 05-Aug-15 11:01:55

Thanks Mini , it didn't feel like a hijack, tbh, just very bad manners! We did still have some good conversations, but perhaps not the ones that I thought we might have. C is currently helping out at the hall in her village, but no doubt she will phone me later. It will be interesting to hear her thoughts!

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AshTree Wed 05-Aug-15 11:00:33

Good grief! What a very self-centred person she sounds shock. What a pity she spoiled what should have been such a lovely girlie evening. Just as well it was 'minimum effort' on your part!
flowers

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MiniMouse Wed 05-Aug-15 10:54:59

Oh phoenix what a shame your birthday was hijacked like that. I can understand that she'd like her phone within reach in case there was a problem with her daughter, but other texts should have been saved for later. Sounds as though it was a definite case of TMI!!

She probably doesn't realise how thoughtless she was, it sounds as though she's too caught up in her own issues at the moment. Did your other friend make any comment?

flowers and sunshine to take your mind off it smile

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Anne58 Wed 05-Aug-15 10:42:55

Good morning all,

I was looking forward to having 2 friends round for supper last night, they have both been round separately a fair few times, (C more than T) but I thought it might be jolly to have them together (they know each other and get on fine)

I had been trying to find a day that suited everyone for ages, so quite a few weeks ago I suggested Tuesday August 4th, and said in the email that it was my birthday and although birthdays are no great shakes these days, it would be nice to have their company as Mr P would be away.

All was set, very minimum effort food as mentioned elsewhere, but I had made sure that everyones taste was catered for, and that as T would be driving, I got in a choice of "posh pop" for her. C arrived first, with a bottle of wine (she always brings one) a card and some flowers, which was a lovely thought smile. T arrived 5 minutes later with nothing. Please don't think that I was expecting anything, but I would always take a bottle of some sort if invited for a meal. (Not breakfast, obviouslygrin, although I suppose one could have Buck's Fizz.......)

Now T had already said that she was having problems with her youngest daughter, and might have to dash off, which I understood. What I wasn't so understanding about was the fact that her phone was immediately placed on the table where it remained all evening, and was frequently made a range of noises as she received texts etc from various family members, including soon to be exdh and her new "chap" in America. She read each one out loud. Now, although it was nice to know that her older daughter had loaded the dishwasher and bought a packet of hair dye for T, I wasn't entirely sure that we needed to know that exdh was thinking of breaking up with current gf. I was however definitely certain that we did NOT either want or need to know what the new man thought of her and what he intended to do when they meet up for a 5 day break in London later in the month!

I don't think I will be inviting her again for the best part of a long time!

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