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Not to want to host a meal for family on my birthday

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Gagagran Tue 01-Sept-15 08:57:19

It was my birthday yesterday and we were invited to DD's for a meal which was absolutely lovely. Champagne on arrival then a roast chicken meal followed by a birthday cake dessert of chocolate brownie cake(plus candles) with strawberries, raspberries and home-made ice-cream. All delicious and hugely enjoyable.

I don't think it's too much to expect your birthday to be just that - your day. I don't want gifts - I already have too much stuff. Being with my loved ones is all I really want.

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kittylester Tue 01-Sept-15 08:46:03

Exactly!

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ginny Tue 01-Sept-15 08:40:41

Agree with all above. Simple meal for son and GF and then enjoy your birthday.

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PRINTMISS Tue 01-Sept-15 08:36:58

I would certainly not expect my children to expect me to entertain them on my birthday. No Way!

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hildajenniJ Tue 01-Sept-15 08:36:17

Certainly not. I would expect the family to throw a celebration for me. You shouldn't have to prepare your own birthday party!

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Anya Tue 01-Sept-15 08:31:30
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Suzied I posted this on the Thought for the Day thread because we (as women? as grandmas?) are sometimes asked to do things we'd rather not do.

I'm happy to help or host if I want to, but I'm also going to practise this saying 'no' more in the future - with a smile only!

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ninathenana Tue 01-Sept-15 08:14:55

Certainly not unreasonable, I would feel exactly the same.

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soontobe Tue 01-Sept-15 08:10:15

You are not being unreasonable. Not in this household anyway. Every family is different.
I would make it clear.

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suzied Tue 01-Sept-15 08:07:04

DS2 asked if he could bring his gf over on her birthday for a meal. Fine I said. And it's your birthday in a few days after that so we could celebrate that at the same time he said. Nooooo! I don't want to shop/ cook/ clean up etc for at least 12 family members much as I love them for my birthday. And I don't want to share it as an afterthought! I did say no, it's not quite my birthday and I am going away for actual day so let's just keep it as a celebration for gf. Am I being unreasonable ? I know I will just get on with it whatever, but I would much rather be cooked for/ taken out to mark my birthday! Should I make this clear? Or would I come across as an old misery. .

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