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Kupari45 Thu 04-Feb-16 12:09:57

My lovely daughter died yesterday of Breast Cancer. She was 41 and had 3 young kids. So Im in in pieces today. However I am trying to comfort my other daughter who is very distressed. I was telling her that it will very graduaily get better. Now the reason I am posting here and not on the Bereavement Forum is: DOES ANYONE REMEMBER ABOUT, LAST SUMMER A LADY POSTED A COMFORTING PIECE ABOUT BEREAVEMENT. She likened it to being tossed in a raging sea and clinging on for dear life, and gradually you reach calm waters. I hope some of you with good memories might be able to help. I am keeping busy helping with the children today. However I thought the above article might bring some comfort to us all.
Brenda

baubles Thu 04-Feb-16 15:35:16

I'm so sorry Kupari flowers

downtoearth Thu 04-Feb-16 15:39:50

My heartfelt sympathy for you and your family kupari45 as you come to terms over the next few weeks and months with your sad loss,I feel confident in saying that GN will offer you support and comfort whenever you feel the need,sending hugs for you and the family [[[[[ ]]]]]] flowers

merlotgran Thu 04-Feb-16 15:40:48

So sorry to hear your sad news, Kupari. flowers

PRINTMISS Thu 04-Feb-16 15:58:36

Only to add all the sympathy and love which has been sent.

Badenkate Thu 04-Feb-16 16:35:28

So very sorry for your loss. I can't even begin to comprehend how you and the other members of your family must feel. Hugs flowers

rubysong Thu 04-Feb-16 16:55:30

Sincere sympathy Kupari45. Do keep posting to let us know how you are doing as the G netters will be thinking of you and your family.

numberplease Thu 04-Feb-16 17:34:12

So very sorry.

emmasnan Thu 04-Feb-16 17:38:20

I'm so sorry, thinking of you and your family.

LullyDully Thu 04-Feb-16 17:45:17

How shocking for the whole family. Such a young woman with beautiful children to live for. All my best thoughts you. flowers"

Marelli Thu 04-Feb-16 18:11:28

Kupari, I'm so sorry for your loss. There are just no words. x

suzied Thu 04-Feb-16 18:13:22

You are in everyone's thoughts ??

Crow Thu 04-Feb-16 18:16:57

How very sad. I too am sending you a virtual hug. flowers

Wheniwasyourage Thu 04-Feb-16 18:43:04

So sad for you. flowers

Maggiemaybe Thu 04-Feb-16 18:48:17

You're in my thoughts too, Kupari. I am so very sorry for your loss. flowers

Maggiemaybe Thu 04-Feb-16 18:56:23

Sadiesnan on this page www.gransnet.com/forums/ask_a_gran/1221787-How-long-after-bereavement-before-it-stops-hurting?pg=2 talks about grief being like waves on a seashore. Could this be the one you're thinking of?

Daisyanswerdo Thu 04-Feb-16 18:59:34

Hearfelt sorrow for your loss Kupari. My daughter died just over a year ago. She was 47. I still can't talk about her without tears.

Kupari45 Thu 04-Feb-16 19:13:25

Many thanks to Maggiemaybe - no thats not it, though similar sentiments.
I seem to remember there were at least two verses in the post I'm thinking of.
Brenda

Daisyanswerdo Thu 04-Feb-16 19:13:35

'still' is misleading. I can't talk about her without tears. I don't expect I ever will be able to.

Maggiemaybe Fri 05-Feb-16 00:32:38

Brenda, I just wish I could find the verses you need. I did keep trying, but with no luck. Thinking of you and your family, and of other GNers who have lost loved ones flowers

grannyqueenie Fri 05-Feb-16 01:02:07

Dear Brenda, I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter. What a sad time for you all, there are no easy words to take away your pain. Thinking of you and your family in these early days of your loss flowers

harrigran Fri 05-Feb-16 08:41:18

I am so sorry for your loss, no mother should have to bury her child flowers

Kupari45 Fri 05-Feb-16 16:20:49

Just wanted to say thank you for your kind messages, Although we couldnt locate the post I was thinking of, if anyone recalls an article that might help please let me know.
I'm hurting like hell just now, but I know it will take time to come to terms with my daughters loss. I will post on the bereavement forum sometime and let you know how we are doing. We live in a lovely area of North Yorkshire so I will get the kids out and about once the weather improves. Once again thank you for your lovely messages of condolence.
Brenda

DotMH1901 Fri 05-Feb-16 16:27:01

Kupari45 - very sorry to read of your sad loss, thoughts are with you and your family x

grannyactivist Fri 05-Feb-16 16:42:20

Kupari45 I'm so sorry for your loss. flowers
In time if you think it may be helpful to seek support for yourself or other family members I can give a personal recommendation for Care for the Family.

mumofmadboys Fri 05-Feb-16 17:01:36

Thinking of you and the familyxx