This is more worrying mollie because we've both been through a huge amount of emotional turmoil due to the situation with our son and to be honest I'm not sure I can take much more.
When we purchased our current home I suppose yes, I did talk him round having been alerted to his doubts not long before we were due to complete. With the property in Florida, I talked to him the night before we were due to complete and told him I didn't want him to go ahead if he had any doubts, he assured me he hadn't, telling me once it had all gone through that he regretted our decision.
We've lived here for nearly 28 years and have done a lot of improvements; we love our home and would never have considered moving if not for the problem with our son. He wont move because he can't afford too. We along with my brother invested in his house, providing the deposit which would be due to be repaid if he moved so not leaving a deposit for a property elsewhere.
I've asked him if he thinks moving away will be the final nail in the coffin of what once was the relationship we had with our son, and if that's why he doesn't to move away but he says not.
I love him dearly, we've got one another through this terrible situation so far and I want him to be happy. I've held him as he's wept as he's held me. I've calmed his rages as he's calmed mine. I've helped him see that we do have a life worth living on the days he's struggled to see that, as he has done for me. I want him to be happy, well as happy as he can be and I want to be happy too.
Thanks for all your comments. I think you're right janeainsworth that the reality of what we're planning has hit for the first time. Thank you Synonymous, perhaps it would just take time for him to settle and see the move as being the right thing to do and yes, it would be good to not be without smiles. I was tempted to wring his neck*Charleygirl*, just momentarily. I'm sure you're right Nannandgrampy, perhaps it is simply the thought of change.
So what do we do? I suppose we should leave things as they are and if we get an offer for our house, by the time that happens he may be more favorable to the idea of moving.