Not sure what to say re loan repayment....

I agree with jingl .

Our daughters have needed financial help in the past that we were able to offer. We let them pay us back every month, and then a few months before the end we told them it was fine.

For us it was about the understanding debts must be paid and for them to feel a little pain paying back so they appreciated the loan.

They were very grateful and a good lesson was learnt.

In this instance I think ( or hope) you got your thanks up front. I certainly wouldn't be concerned your final email was not more effusive.

I don't mean that harshly btw. Pleas no brickbats anyone!

Perhaps you could have let them off the last payment or two? Seeing as they've been good with the repayments. Then you could have expected thanks.

There was no interest on the loan, I'm generally okay with it, just feel a little bit disappointed that the email didn't even say a basic thank you. And the final payment was literally down to the last penny of the loan. Oh well, put it down to experience and move on I guess. And compared to some we've done well to get it back.
Thanks for your comments.

helski
Neither a borrower nor a lender be
For loan oft loses both itself and friend .........

At least you haven't lost the loan.
Make sure you don't lose your daughter by making an issue of this thanking business.
I don't remember writing and thanking the bank manager when I paid off my mortgage.

At least it was all repaid. We lent our Daughter and her then partner £30,000 for a deposit. Two years later she left him and he carried on in the property. We advised her what to do but she was adiment that she would pay back her half. She never has, but her ex partner paid every penny with interest.

Have they expressed gratitude along the way? They may well be keeping the 'business side' separate and planning a nice surprise for you to say thanks. BTW, did they pay interest on the loan or'just' repaid the sum borrowed?

If nothing happens over the next few weeks, perhaps I'd try and find a way to say one day that you felt a bit sad that there was no thank you.

I agree with Ana why start something you may live to regret? They have done all that could be asked of them, settled down, bought their home, and repaid you. Well done them, and certainly well done (and lucky) you, to have been able to help them on their way.

I agree. Let it go, life's too short!

It's a difficult one. You were lucky that they paid regularly and there was no hassle...to my mind that shows an appreciation of what you did for them. They are probably terribly relieved that they have cleared it. Turn it around and be happy that you were able to help them.....you never know, there may even be flowers on the way!

No, YANBU, I would have wanted a fanfare! Maybe tell them that the bank of mum and dad is well and truly closed now and the money they paid back is going into the "spending the kids inheritance fund". Then book a lovely long holiday, the two of you and toast, while away, to the fact that you are excellent parents!

One of my dad's sayings was, "There's more than one way to skin a rabbit." Too true.

Now I'm off to put some itching powder in my son's boxers as he was rude to me earlier!

Give them time..... they might yet express their gratitude in some way but if not then let it go.

I assume they acknowledged your generosity and said 'thank you' at the time of the loan? If so then I would just be glad for them and let it go.

Say nothing. I hope they thanked you profusely when you offered them the loan.

Least said, soonest mended. They are probably just busy and thoughtless.

Maybe a (disingenuous) "thank you" from you to them, for the final instalment, saying you were glad to help and hope that they continue to be happy in their home?
Perhaps that will produce a response?
There may be a thank you on its way, so I would not voice any disappointment or criticism.