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chelseababy Mon 13-Jun-16 18:02:53

They live about 20 miles away. I think he probably set it up before "asking" me, assuming I would just agree. Meeting half way for a meal would suit me.

rosesarered Mon 13-Jun-16 18:00:05

Agree with thingamajig

Thingmajig Mon 13-Jun-16 17:56:55

But why do they need to stay overnight if they now live in your area???
Husbands can be the absolute pits sometimes!

I wouldn't be happy about having them over either, a pub meal sounds like far the better option for meeting people you don't know yet. Easier to leave if things don't work out so well, rather than having them hang around awkwardly after a home cooked meal at yours.

If they must come to your house, can the overnight stay element be cancelled ... some disaster with your guest room perhaps?!? wink

sunseeker Mon 13-Jun-16 14:48:08

My DH was a very sociable man but could be a little remiss in letting me know about invitations he had issued. One Christmas morning he suddenly announced he had invited 2 friends to Christmas lunch as they were both on their own! Fortunately all it meant was cooking a few extra potatoes and veggies! The lunch went very well and we all had a great time, however I did already know them. I would have been happy to have people I didn't know come for lunch - not sure how I would feel about them staying the night.

Luckygirl Mon 13-Jun-16 14:32:06

I wouldn't have a problem about them coming for a meal - they are old friends of your OH - it is always nice meeting new people. I am surprised he invited them overnight without your blessing though.

Charleygirl Mon 13-Jun-16 14:19:55

Inviting them to stay overnight without consulting you is a bit much. I am assuming that he will be doing all of the food buying, prep and cooking, not to mention sorting out bedding etc for them also! I thought so- he needs to get the plans changed. A meal maybe but not to stay overnight.

Teetime Mon 13-Jun-16 13:53:03

If its just a meal I would be Ok with that but I would like to be asked first. I don't think he should mind if you say you would rather meet up in a pub if you are more comfortable with that- I don't think they would mind either.

Smileless2012 Mon 13-Jun-16 13:47:47

Did your other half extend the invitation after you'd discussed it or had he already invited them before telling you in the first place chelseababy?

I think it's perfectly reasonable for you to want to meet on neutral ground as you've never met them before and un reasonable of him to invite them to stay over. I find that Mr. S. usually sulks when he knows he's in the wrong but doesn't want to say so; perhaps that's why your other half's sulking.

Is he going to contact them and say you'll still be meeting up but there's been a change of plans? It may well be that they are just as uncomfortable at the prospect of staying with someone they've never met before as you were.

Hope you get it sorted.

chelseababy Mon 13-Jun-16 13:37:26

Yesterday afternoon my other half announced that he would like to invite and old friend and wife who've recently returned to the area, over for a meal. I said as i'd not met either of them before I'd rather meet on neutral territory (a pub perhaps). Later I discover he has asked them anyway (including to stay the night) so I've said he'll have to un invite them! Now he's sulking.