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AIBU to object to a radio played in the garden?

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lizzypopbottle Sun 11-Sep-16 15:42:03

My neighbours are playing Metro Radio in their garden. I can't turn my ears off but they can certainly do their listening inside the house. I can hear it in my conservatory as well as outside in my garden. People are so thoughtless.

Elrel Thu 06-Oct-16 10:49:14

OP Worry not, this lovely autumnal sunshine won't last for ever!

mrsmopp Thu 22-Sep-16 11:32:16

Let's face it, unwanted music is everywhere these days. Can't even shop in B&Q or Superdruh without an infernal racket going on. Pubs and restaurants ditto
I can't stand it. I would like to start a campaign to stop it.

gillybob Wed 21-Sep-16 22:49:03

My 2 DGD's have been practicing their gymnastic routine in my back garden for the past few weeks. They have their mats spread out and that Peter Pan / Lost boys song playing on a loop via DH's ipad. My neighbours must be drove up the wall.

To be fair I don't allow them to play it loud but there's just no room indoors.

mrsmopp Wed 21-Sep-16 21:19:14

There is no need for anyone to inflict their music choices on their neighbors as it is selfish behavior. It's easy to listen to your own music with headphones and I find it's less of a problem these days than it used to be. I remember gangs of lads on the beach with their ghetto blasters and nobody dared say a word to them.

To tell you the truth, all I have to do now is take out my hearing aids and I get total silence. Bliss. I would hate to be forced to listen to someone else's choice of music.

grannylyn65 Sun 18-Sep-16 20:08:03

'These kind of people '?
Says a lot about you

Barmyoldbat Sat 17-Sep-16 20:53:11

I have young families nearly all around me and there is plenty of noise from them so I think me listening to the radio or playing my music with the window open is all just part of life. Once use to supervise a gang of lads on a gardening project. The first day I endured radio 1 all day! Day 2 I laid down the law, radio 1 in the morning and radio 4 in afternoon. After a few days they were planning their tea breaks around the afternoon story!

Liz46 Sat 17-Sep-16 07:45:05

Our neighbour sometimes plays music in the garden. His taste in music is definitely not the same as mine and I think it is a very selfish thing to do.
On the other side of him are a family with three young children. When the children play in the garden he complains about the noise!
We are retired and on a sunny day, enjoy sitting in the garden reading. Inevitably someone starts strimming, mowing or cleaning up with a power hose.
Our other neighbour is a lovely, elderly man but he is a chain smoker and I have asthma. He constantly lights up on the other side of the fence and hasn't seemed to notice that I cough every time.

Leticia Sat 17-Sep-16 07:21:39

I think it is totally unacceptable.
It is also unnecessary these days when you can have earpieces.

anne53 Mon 12-Sep-16 22:40:13

I get very confused in my garden as my neighbours on both sides play music in their gardens quite loudly. It doesn't bother me too much as my family are musical and I have lived with years of guitar, drums, piano, flute and saxophone! However, I do get the urge occasionally to shout " put them on the same channel" as I get very confused!

hallgreenmiss Mon 12-Sep-16 22:01:07

In situations like this I would be inclined to put my music on at a volume that drowns out their music then, perhaps, the neighbours would get a taste of what they're inflicting on others.

GannyRowe Mon 12-Sep-16 17:57:00

I think that when someone else's actions impinge on what I am doing in a detrimental way, it's not on. But I try not to be a moaning Minnie!
My neighbour is 90 and as deaf as a post bless her, the houses are semis, so I have to endure her dreadful choices of tv viewing, nearly full blast for pretty much twelve hours a day! It wouldn't be so bad, if her choice of program weren't so different to my own.......I could just turn my sound off and listen to hers......but I'm not that lucky! At her age, I don't feel I can ask for the volume to be lowered, so just grit my teeth.
But there is light at the end of the tunnel, I hope to move away before Xmas.

Zengran Mon 12-Sep-16 17:54:35

I have a close neighbour who is in her garden whenever it is sunny. She then proceeds to SHOUT at her husband constantly with regular swearwords thrown in for good measure. She can go on for absolutely ages. It does spoil being in my garden as I can't bear to listen to it. I go into the house away from it, having to close the windows too, to keep out the noise. Other neighbours have remarked on this too, but none of us have asked her to stop. We are all of a mind that she would make life difficult if we did and none of us could bear that. We have reported it to the housing association (we all live in an over 55s cul-de-sac of bungalows with 3 monthly checks by the landlord) but there has been no change. We are all quite glad when the colder months arrive and peace is restored!!

2mason16 Mon 12-Sep-16 16:47:53

My bugbear is since husband retired I have to put up with his favourite radio stations! Always on upstairs, downstairs, garden and garage all the time - not loud - but constant! grrr.

Ilrina Mon 12-Sep-16 16:23:26

Live and let live to a certain extent, all things in moderation. I am lucky with my neighbours, or at least I was. we used to have just fields at the back of us, but now they have built about 80 houses there, and big family houses. I put up and shut up but I must say the kids screaming and having tantrums in the garden is irritating to say the least.
The thing that gets me most is if they have a BBQ, and these kind of people always do. I don't want to have the smell of their greasy burgers all over my garden. Time to move I think!

lizzypopbottle Mon 12-Sep-16 14:16:47

Actually, DB, I've never set eyes on these neighbours because they are diagonal across the back of us and there's a hedge. They are extremely noisy in what seems to be a totally oblivious way. They have what must be a huge pool in their garden (disadvantage of a bungalow - you can't have a nosey from upstairs!) and their children were having diving lessons from mum at the weekend with loud splashes, points scores and critiques all day. I don't normally object to children's noise but these two have the shrillest, loudest voices ever and they squabble mostly. The boy is bossy and the girl is whiney. Even with the conservatory windows shut, their constant moaning and arguing is perfectly audible. Thank goodness the schools have gone back and we have peace till 4pm! I suppose they'll leave home in ten years or so!

Mowers and garden machinery are quite a different matter. Everyone's grass and hedges need cutting and you know the noise will stop after a short time. Unlike radios, this is noise that you can't go indoors to indulge in! Garden fires are rare these days, I know, since the advent of garden waste collection. That was just an illustration of live and let live. My previous neighbour over the back used to leave her washing on the line for days at a time, whatever the weather. I always 'cooeed' over the fence if I was planning a barbecue or planning to burn garden rubbish. The previous neighbours to them always let us know when their family barbecue parties were due. It's just common courtesy to consider others.

Legs55 Mon 12-Sep-16 14:00:24

I am fairly tolerant, I've needed to be with my neighbour (I get on very well with them), she has had lots of work done around the house & garden. Lads doing garden had the radio on but not too load I could only hear it in my garden. It was the skip outside for months & lots of vans, cutting slabs (lots of dust to which I'm allergic) but just live & let live smile

Their dog on the other hand barks at people & my cat (think he wants to play - cat has other ideas!!!!). But the worst thing is she has taught it to play with a ball & the high pitched yelping + neighbour's voice (loud) drives me demented angry. However I'm not going to fall out with them (it's not him he's quiet - husband not dog)

Neighbours had a BBQ the other weekend & did the sensible thing - invited all the neighbours & we had a good time smile

Lewlew Mon 12-Sep-16 13:59:26

My worse beef are scaffolders who put their radios on the scaffolding or in their lorry cab at full volume. I know it's a boring job, but the profanity of some of the rap hip hop crapola is too much. Turn it down and put on Radio 2 please! Usually saying I have someone ill at home does the trick (that would be me...) wink

marionk Mon 12-Sep-16 13:49:31

Our neighbours have a hot tub at the end of their garden just the other side of our fence, bad enough that he can't use it without the radio on, but the thing does some sort of cleaning cycle every couple of hours and rumbles loudly during the process.

GrannyBing Mon 12-Sep-16 13:38:02

I often think the level of annoyance depends on whether or not you like the person making the noise (as Neversaydie above obviously does). If the neighbours were nice, saying how music helps them relax, reminds them of a holiday, hope you don't mind, etc I think that would reduce the stress level for you lizzypopbottle.
I've neighbours who sometimes have friends round for a summer barbecue accompanied by music but they are so charming and considerate the rest of the time that they're forgiven!

ginny Mon 12-Sep-16 13:09:33

If it is often and very loud then you are not being unreasonable. If it is very occasional then maybe best to put up with it or politely ask them to turn it down.
I went to my hairdresser last week who apologised that it was very quiet as the radio / sound system was not working. He was amazed when I said it didn't bother me , in fact I preferred it. I love music and have fairly eclectic taste but I love when and where I choose to listen.

Juggernaut Mon 12-Sep-16 13:01:42

Normally I wouldn't mind hearing a neighbours radio, just as long as it wasn't terribly loud.
However, the two teenage boys who live in the house behind us got into the habit of putting loudspeakers on their bedroom windowsill, turning the volume to max and opning the windows wide, so that they could sit in the garden listening to their 'music'.
This happened every time their parents went out, and although the house is a long way from us, it was dreadful.
Eventually I went round there, and asked very politely if they realised that we were all being subjected to their 'music'.
Their answer, "Sorry, we didn't realise you'd be able to hear it"!!! They may be a bit thick as far as basic physics is concerned, but they stopped doing it and we've had comparative peace ever since!

Dartzie62 Mon 12-Sep-16 12:53:22

I agree that we need to give and take, but some neighbours seem to go over and above this. Our neighbour downstairs loves slamming doors, so hard that the place shakes! He doesnt like us living above him and does at times try and make it known. We just continue to try and ignore him, but it is hard.

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Neversaydie Mon 12-Sep-16 10:39:27

My DH likes to.listen to music (quite loudly) most of the time, in his study aka our dining room. Patio doors to garden often open in summer.
Until 5years ago this would have bothered no one (the house one side of us is some distance away) However a new house was built next to us (we objected in vain)
Tbf our new neighbour(we don't like him for several reasons which may be a factor) has never complained but would we be unreasonable to say 'tough luck'this house has been here since the fifties'and we have lived in it nearly 30years ?