Constructive criticism?

I may have to start a thread about it...

How dare you cast nasturtiums on us Northerners, jingl!

"goggle it".

That was direct d at Ana.

He he he!

That's what I said...

(and I didn't need to goggle it!)

But I think the origin is likely to be ruder than that. It's Northern and we know what they're like up there.

Not a particularly elegant turn of phrase either.

I have heard it before.

I goggled to find the origin. Urban Dictionary - do a disappearing act.

Right, thank you Ana. Not a turn of phrase. I had ever come across. But live and learn

It's when a poster attacks or criticises another poster personally that the nastiness comes in.
IMO people should be able to accept, but still disagree with, a different opinion to their own without becoming upset. And sometimes even change their opinion after listening to the other side.

I'm surprised so many of you have never come across the phrase 'to do one' before. I suppose it could be politely translated as 'do a disappearing act'!

Do a flounce?

Long run off a short pier?

Anyone?

Neither have I Pollengran, I said they can do one

Sorry to bang on about it rafichagran, but I am -still-- no wiser!
"do one " what?

I know you didn't Daphne. We both got the quote slightly wrong, but we meant the same thing.

I would also like to know why Rubylady felt upset enough to say so, without saying why.

As Jings said, everyone starts to question what they post without knowing why .(I put the smile in to be polite).

Crossed posts there

But DB if Rubylady says anything explicit it will become a thread about a thread, and get deleted. Once "they" spot it.

Is this morphing into a thread about a thread?
Doesn't seem to be doing more than stating a truism and (by default) inviting contrary opinions.

I haven't been on gransnet for long and only contribute when I feel my opinion might make a difference, although I do enjoy reading the posts and most of the replies. I do understand that everyone can have a different point of view and that is a wonderful thing. If we ask for advice, surely a range of opinions is a good thing. However, I am sometimes surprised at the nastiness which is shown in some responses. I do appreciate that someone might find the post a waste of time but if it matters enough for someone to actually post it in the first place, then I think it either deserves a polite response and if that isn't possible perhaps just refrain from saying anything at all

What brought this on anyway? Somebody been less than constructive with you rubylady? If so, "spit it out"!

No. Do what?

I didn't say you did pollengran but you quoted rafichagran (17.58/18.26) and I still don't understand the turn of phrase

Neither have I Pollengran, I said they can do one, in other words I am not going to listen to aggresive, rude people, who have no respect for others opinions. I have told people who disagree me, and become shouty or angry, we will have to agree to disagree or I will walk away. I do not see why people cannot discuss things politely.

As for Gransnet I love the threads, and I like a debate,but some posters just get too nasty.

Dlf

Perhaps no point posting on here at all if we are all such slf's. (See acronyms thread)

I've never told anyone to do one.