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Everyday sexism

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Wheniwasyourage Sun 23-Oct-16 16:11:20

Apologies if this has all been discussed before. Recently I have rebuked a rather arrogant young Customer Services man in a station for repeatedly calling me "love" when I asked for information. I pointed out that he didn't know me and that I was a lot older than him. On another recent train trip there was a conductor who called the men "sir" and the women "dear". (In this case, he was a really helpful, cheerful man, and I wouldn't have dreamt of rebuking him, as I'm sure he meant no offence, unlike the young man in the station.) I don't see the need for any such form of address, but if one is needed, surely the equivalent of "sir" is "madam", is it not?

Rigby46 Sat 29-Oct-16 11:11:32

Bluffer's Guide to the EU

Im68Now Sat 29-Oct-16 08:56:20

I remember the bluffers guide to getting your products noticed on gransnet.

BlueBelle Sat 29-Oct-16 05:54:43

Well I like cider LOL

Rigby46 Fri 28-Oct-16 21:44:50

I wrote read The Bluffer's Guide to Wine'. Does anyone remember that Bluffers series - it was really great and really worked

Ana Fri 28-Oct-16 21:16:58

About wine, at any rate...

Ana Fri 28-Oct-16 21:16:37

Obviously a lot more than some of us, me included! grin

Rigby46 Fri 28-Oct-16 21:14:00

Actually there are many - we had one from Domaine Paternel but equally we could have had a white wine from Domaine de Ferme Blanche. But there you go, what do I know๐Ÿ˜„๐Ÿ˜„๐Ÿ˜„๐Ÿ˜„

DaphneBroon Fri 28-Oct-16 21:07:43

I think there was only one Rigby confused

Rigby46 Fri 28-Oct-16 21:02:02

Jalima the wine we had was a white wine of cassis which I'm sure you'd like ( if you don't know it already) and I got to choose it grin

Rigby46 Fri 28-Oct-16 21:00:16

I will ignore the rest of your comments directed at me as I've enjoyed a wonderful day in the sun and a great lunch

Rigby46 Fri 28-Oct-16 20:46:04

DB I did not say that Anya was undermining or devaluing because she has a different opinion. I criticised the use of the phrase ' chip on your shoulder' as being that and I stand by that view and not in a bad tempered way

Jalima Fri 28-Oct-16 20:45:37

hmm DaphneBroon

Oh - Another square!!
Is it chocolate or .....

BlueBelle Fri 28-Oct-16 20:45:01

I wish I still got wolf whistled bloody harmless, use to give me a lift, is it that terrible, we'll it wasn't for me it was a bit of innocent fun not enough fun around these days
Gosh what a very simple original question turned a bit nasty I don't really care what people call me at least I m alive for them to call me at all

I ve never noticed young people being patronising or arrogant I get on well with them and why not I laugh in the faces of the young chuggers in the high street calling me young lady, as if that ll make any difference, I usually tell them to go to Specsavers

My Nan was from Leicestershire and always called me 'my duck' I like to hear it reminds me of her

Rigby46 Fri 28-Oct-16 20:43:48


DaphneBroon Fri 28-Oct-16 19:48:19

We'll that seems to have banged that one on the head jalima!! grin

Jalima Fri 28-Oct-16 17:53:19

DaphneBroon Fri 28-Oct-16 17:21:42

Why on earth has this thread got to be so bad tempered? It must be jolly cold up there on some people's high horses.
I am with those who don't take offence where none is intended, a kindly word can be seen as just that. I know my own worth and do not find it demeaning if a man or another woman orders the wine (I hate Chardonnay so anyway would have chipped in and said, "a glass of Chenin Blanc//Merlot/ Irn Bru for me please " if I felt strongly enough about it and would not have, shock, horror, seen it as an instance of sexism, just misplaced ego.) And to remember it years later hmm
But how satisfying to have something at which to take offence, isn't it?
I don't think for a minute Anya was being devaluing or undermining just because she holds a different opinion. Live and let live, autrement dit, "choose your battles".
I am reminded of a colleague of whom it was said "She cannot see a teacup without creating a storm"
Peace and love! flowers

fiorentina51 Fri 28-Oct-16 16:59:12

My dear old Brummie dad often used to call me, 'Ma Wench'.

Anya Fri 28-Oct-16 16:40:28

Terrified I think WB thlwink

Jalima Fri 28-Oct-16 16:31:18

Cheers Rigby46

I am used to being called duck but I suppose some people may think that requires action.

grannypiper Thu 27-Oct-16 21:16:39

Here in S,Ayrshire its Hen or Son

grumppa Thu 27-Oct-16 21:06:34

Within the past week two enormous barmaids in two local pubs have called me 'darling'. I wasn't sure whether to be flattered or terrified, but I certainly didn't feel patronised.

Rigby46 Thu 27-Oct-16 20:32:24

Jalima a very passable Chardonnay drunk this evening

KatyK Thu 27-Oct-16 19:31:34

I quite like being called love. A young double glazing salesman called me 'babes' not long ago. I was chuffed. What I don't like is when I get stopped in the street by someone trying to sell something and they say 'excuse me young lady' when it's obvious that I'm not young. Very patronising.

Wobblybits Thu 27-Oct-16 18:48:21

Today, because I was having to use crutches, two young ladies held doors open for me, that is all wrong, it should be me holding the doors for them, didn't feel right, but I was most appreciative.