I still get irritated by this - AIBU to hate being referred to as a 'girl'...

I'm staggered that so many women of my generation don't get it. Whether or not we decide to call ourselves 'girls' I really did think that as contemporaries we understood where the objection to this came from. Perhaps we haven't come so very far after all

I wonder if the mumsnetters would get it? I bloody well hope so.

I don't mind being a 67 year old "girl". We're "boys" and "girls " forever! Oh trisher ?

I'm in a quiz team of men (at 72, they are 7 years older than me) and I always refer to them as, 'I'm seeing 'the boys' tonight'. Mind you, I am the team captain!

Some men can use the words 'girls' in a demeaning manner, I agree, others as a compliment. Either I ignore it or react accordingly as to how the comment was intended depending on the situation. I could say,' That's flattering, I wish I was still a girl' or something like 'What do the other boys think?' The man/bloke/guy/fella/boy should get the appropriate message. In the situation mentioned here, probably better to be spoken to than ignored.

I say poor man as a figure of speech really.Seeing as the OPer has said he's a nice man with no malice intended, he's totally innocent in the matter.
Or is that wrong too.

Really what does it matter as long as he wasnt being a chauvenist.And if a poster posts she /he should not be castigated.Some of you on here are more than harsh Whatever the post is, its about a persons deep feelings, and you could all be a little more help in valadating the posters hurt

It doesn't bother me at all. I used to work with someone to hated it as much as you and got really upset at being called "girl"
I personally don't find it patronising at all.

Also i absoultely detest the word hun Especially by people who dont even know me Thats really patanising. Used mostly by other women
I suppose its all realtive what greetings get up yiur nose .My long dead beloved mum always hated the word plus .She used to physcaly squirm when ut was mentioned in any context.

Over sensitive reaction in my humble opinion. A lack empathy with the poor guy who was only trying to be pleasant by the standards of his age. Doubt if he'll dare to address OP again, for fear of being shot down in flames.

But, whether he meant to be or not, he was being a chauvinist Helmsley.

So the man who used a word a woman dislikes and was corrected is regarded as a "poor man" and drenched in sympathy, whilst the woman who objected to what she saw as a derisory term, and those who agree with her are subjected to abuse and name calling. Thanks goodness for women who are outspoken and support each other recognising that it isn't acceptable to use language someone else finds offensive and that they have a perfect right to be offended and to say so. Entirely a case of victim blaming which has dogged the cause of women throughout history. I'm just amazed there are so many dinosaurs out there. Disagree with her decision by all means but don't castigate someone because they have a different view to your own and don't make a victim out of someone who was simply corrected.

Pogs - I'm surprised. I looked up hinny and as well as being the Geordie pronunciation of honey, it means an ass - cross between a horse and a donkey.
Maybe it's the sound the ass makes.

Bluebonnie, Carol says in her OP, "My friend is 50" so "the standards of his age" are not the old fashioned ones of an 80 or 90 year old, but those of people who grew up and formed their 'standards' through the 70s, 80s and 90s when it would not have been right to belittle or infantilise women.

What a pompous and humourless ( and long) comment trisher the people who disagree with you are 'dinosaurs' are we?
By all means disagree, but spare us the feminist ranting.

This should have been in the pedants thread...zheesh.

OP describes him as a CHAP, but she's offended at being greeted as a girl? Maybe he was influenced by the Boots beauty advert which used the music for Here Come The Girls, for women of all ages.

He certainly did not mean to be disrespectful and if he registered her reaction, likely will not greet her again at all for fear to offend.

Lighten up... OP and be glad you can get out, socialise, and have a church and a congregation to interact with. Some people are shut-ins and see no one day in and day out. They'd be happy to trade places with you just to hear a sincere cheerful greeting full-stop.

Namaste, as my neighbour greets me.

At 69, I'm happy to be referred to as a 'girl', but I prefer to be addressed as 'Your Majesty'.

It's when someone calls you an old bag you should get angry.I can't see what's so upsetting about being called a girl. Find something else to rant over.

I always thought a hinny was a kind of cake or biscuit (drop scone? Singing Hinny?)

trisher the 'poor man' was being friendly and made a mistake and was subjected to rudeness.

Now I may be a 'dinosaur' but when I was brought up manners were taught and a response like the OP's would have been considered rude.
'It's a long time since I was a girl! Actually my name's Carol and this is my friend ***' would have been more polite and perhaps he would have got the message.

But perhaps they were trying to get rid of him because he was a bore and they have probably succeeded.

No problem with this form of address. What are the alternatives, lassies and lads?

I wonder how old this poor man was.
trisher the OP says he was 'nice' but you say he was offensive

I don't suppose he thought that her response was very nice and he will probably avoid them both in future so the problem is solved.
Voilà!

Officers and their Ladies
Non-Commissioned Officers and their wives
Other Ranks and their Women

No mention of girls

Jalima1108 I just saw you have numbers after your username, but in an older thread, referenced in this one, you are still Jalima. Cloning yourself?

Wot, no camp followers Jalima

I refrained from saying that

LewLew there is only one of me

Although I cannot remember what I said about anything in my previous incarnation.

I wasn't going to lower the tone by using the p****** word on this thread as it started off in church rosesarered