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Pulling yourself together.

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PRINTMISS Tue 02-May-17 16:51:54

I agree with all those who say look after yourself. You are the important one, not because everything depends on you, but because you are you. I know you have a chesty cough and cold, but if you could venture out when the sun shines perhaps that will make you feel a little better, certainly fresher, and from experience I think that is what is needed when you get bogged down.

Crafting Tue 02-May-17 16:34:29

I would start off by going through each room putting things away or back where they belong without doing any cleaning. Then when things are in place just pick one job (like dusting or washing the floor) do one job a day. As others have said, if you are not well, don't push yourself. Hope you feel better soon.

Smileless2012 Tue 02-May-17 16:08:26

Be kind to yourself loopylou, as other posters have said it's difficult to get yourself motivated when you're not feeling well; it's difficult sometimes even if you are.

I've been to the gym this morning and have a load of paperwork to catch up on which I sorted before I went out so it was all ready on my return and what have I accomplished so far; nothingblush.

Took my little dog out when I got home, had a long 'phone conversation with my brother and have been on GN ever since. Hey ho, tomorrow is another day and I can get the paperwork done then; perhaps, possibly, maybe.

PoshGran Tue 02-May-17 15:54:15

I loathe housework at any time, you get things sorted & not long afterwards it needs sorting again...ho, hum.
I have days when I know I need to get certain things done, so my routine is to set the cooker alarm for 15 minutes & get cracking. When the alarm goes off (I call it Cilla 'coz it sounds like the double tap rhythm of "You're My World") I reset it for another 15 mins & in that time do something that I want to do. These on/off periods are a useful aid to get me started.
Until you are feeling better loopyloo give yourself time & don't feel guilty. Get well soon.flowers

Anya Tue 02-May-17 15:22:43

loopy just let today GO, but plan tomorrow.

Write down a few things (3-4) you must do, then on your list 2-3 things you should do and then add another 2-3 you could do if you have time or feel like it.

Tick them off as you go, but remember it's only the first few you must do so prioritise.

henetha Tue 02-May-17 15:08:03

I understand, loopylou. I find it all too easy to spiral down, especially when not well, into an over-eating, couldn't-care-less about housework attitude. I never seem to quite keep on top of things. And it's ever so hard to pull myself together. Sometimes, if someone decides to visit me that will be enough to make me go mad with tidying and cleaning. Sometimes a glimpse of myself in an unfamiiar window or mirror will make me see how porky I am getting. And just sometimes I just feel absolutely disgusted with myself. It's not easy. If you find a magic solution please let me know.

annsixty Tue 02-May-17 14:58:57

I totally understand the eating Loopylou as I am in the same spiral. I "just have a small piece of chocolate and then horror of horrors a bag of crisps.
I tell myself I hardly go out and nobody is interested how I look even if overweight and so it goes on and on.
When I had my knee op I lost a stone. I have put half of it back on and hate myself for it,
I think you left work some little time ago, you may have a slight depression from that and the change in your life.
I hope we all pick up with some sunshine round the corner.

Alima Tue 02-May-17 14:44:28

Take things easy loopyloo, you will probably feel more like doing stuff when you are fully recovered. (Regarding Christinefrance's advice, best not make the treat alcoholic either. If you have a lingering bug you could end up alcohol dependant by the time you are better!)

Christinefrance Tue 02-May-17 14:32:16

One step at a time loopyloo, start with tidying up a small area or washing up, congratulate yourself on a job well done then move on to the next step. Give yourself a little treat at the end of the day, not food related though. Good luck.

Charleygirl Tue 02-May-17 14:31:58

You get yourself better first of all. You are less likely to want to clean anywhere when feeling like s**t. A trip to your GP for antibiotics for starters and go slowly from there.

loopyloo Tue 02-May-17 14:25:02

I really seem to have got into a mess. I had a cold and now have a chesty cough. And am now in the habit of eating too much and the house needs tidying up. Where do you people start? How do you pull yourself together?