Problems which are not problems

I am sorry that my post didn't come across ad I intended.
I hope that no one stops posting their problems such as clothes, vacuum cleaners, recipes, holiday destinations etc. That is what we are here for. Along with the marriage problems of us or our offspring. Health issues a g happy news of GC are what makes this forum good.
I wasn't really thinking my OP through, just venting about what yesterday I thought of as trivia against the realities of my life.
Unlike Mrs May I can say sorry.?

Hello Ann, you posted how you felt yesterday evening. I hope you got some rest overnight and that you won't leave gransnet.
Anaya's response to you rang bells for me. Most of us will have had some tough times. I've had something 'tough' as a backdrop to my life for thirty years now. Getting older brings home the reality that hope is less and acceptance important. The demands of you at this stage of your life are top of the scale and all I can do is send love and wish you the strength you need. By the way, I don't often read threads that don't interest me, I suspect that includes the ones I see as frivolous. Sadly, I'd rather read the politics threads. I probably need therapy xx

I like the mix of subjects on here. Sometimes when things are hard in one's own life it's quite nice to read lighter subjects. I have gleaned all sorts of useful things on here over the years. You might categorise many of these things as trivial but they have been useful to me. But I do think it is also very good that people can come here to seek advice and support on things that are difficult and or life changing. Surely the site is simply a reflection of real life? When there is nothing in your life that is totally stressful little things can assume greater proportions but even agonising over small things doesn't mean that the person who posted doesn't have perspective when it comes to bigger things

Annsixty there are times when the first response which springs to my mind on reading some of the type of facile issues which I suspect you are talking about is a simple three letter acronym.
(FFS)
I may try to resist writing it, or even saying it, but I can think it

I don't really know about your life problems Ann but from others posts on here I m feeling you're in a pretty dark place at the moment and I can well understand when someone is angonising about whether to wear flat heels or high at the forthcoming wedding and how it will break her heart if she gets it wrong ( I've just made that up so if there is a thread about that it wasn't intended for you) must make you see red I didn't read it that Ann was critising fun or laughter or a bit of lightheartedness or even questions about acupuncture or the flower in your garden JUST about mountains out of blooming molehills and I have to say sometimes I feel a groan coming on I think when some people haven't experienced any problems a tiny thing that we (who have) would brush it aside like a sneeze is to them a 'big' thing and can generate frustration

I too had no idea what P6 meant round here we just call it Year 6 as there is no Year 6 in high school so the P is irrelevant but you live and learn each day I know know P6 is not an older cousin of G4

What is a trivial problem to one person can be a big one to someone else

"AnnSixty" (((hugs)))

There are times when one can feel very down but don't really want to want to off load it to all and sundry on here but feel shit and don't want to explain why.

The sort of situation when you really just want a virtual hug.

I'm not sure annsixty

Many of us have had serious problems, family, health and otherwise and sometimes a bit of frivolity can make us giggle and think about something else for a minute or two even when we feel despairing about other, major, things going on in our lives.
Some threads where people are agonising over something trivial may seem irritating but some threads which are obviously light-hearted may just be someone trying to smile through their tears.

Perhaps at the moment everything is just too overwhelming for you to see much light at the end of the tunnel and I really hope you get the help you both need.

I'm sorry you feel like that annsixty but we all have our own kinds of problems and all have different abilities to cope with them. There is a different thread running about having no friends and I think sometimes if I had some real friends (you know the kind that listen to you and offer advice etc) then maybe I wouldn't post so much on Gransnet. I am just so grateful that GN is here for me to post/ share/sound off my problems (which admittedly are fairly minor ones when compared to others), or I might go completely bonkers or even more bonkers than I already am

To be fair, I don't think we should criticise posters for not knowing about what is going on in someone's life - some people have been on here for years and know a lot about each other, others not so much. I've picked up a bit about ann and I feel I can understand why she posted as she did. Anyone can post about anything on GN serious or otherwise and we all know this but if we're having a bad time in RL I can understand how it can be irritating to see a trivial or frivolous thread. There are different ways of coping aren't they? I have two very serious things going on in my life at the moment but I don't want to share those on GN so having a good rant on the politics thread is a diversion for me. That's my choice but also reflects my RL situation and the support mechanisms available within it. That's bound to vary between us isn't it. I think it's great that there's such a variety here even though I would not go on some threads at all but I would never be critical of those who did. ann I'm sure you won't leave - there are lots of safe spaces it seems to me on GN and when people want support, I see them just starting a thread snd they get it in droves. which is great

I understand ann, life is pretty crappy at present, for me too but sometimes exchanging stupid trivial things helps lighten the day.
Don't leave, you will get support on here.

Sorry you feel like that ann - I do understand how things can get to you when life is tough.

I for one hope that you will stick with us, as your posts are always valued by me and many others.

I know what you mean Ann - sometimes when things are really bad, and there's no way out of it and you're only hanging on by your teeth and sheer grit, then you can have moments when everything else feels trivial and frivolous and insignificant.

When going through one of the worst periods of my life I can remember a young check-out lad asking 'how's your day been so far?' and I bloody well nearly told him exactly how it had been.

So I can imagine, knowing a bit about your day-to-day issues how you raised this question.

All I can say is cry, but laugh too. Any other way lies madness or suicide. .

Thanks, Chewbacca I realise that I'm not to everyone's taste, but I would hate to upset anyone.

phoenix whenever I see your signature post could be wrong, often am" , it always make me smile! Your posts are always laced with humour and with a "sideways glance" at life, I always enjoy seeing you. annsixty, tomorrow's another day. Don't give up on GN, most of us can empathise with how you're feeling and are more than willing to listen to us grumbling at some time or other. to you both.

serkeen, what Maw said.

Jane, gn is a place for all problems - big and small and for phoenix and frivolity.

Sometime Ann just like in RL you need to have a bloody good moan about the the things that hack you off throughout the day or share a mad moment that has had you in tears, in stitches, or gobsmacked. Not all of life has to be a trial, i am sure when you meet up with friends you don't just discuss problems or intellectual matters that only score highly on the non trivia scale. It is what it is, enjoy

Now I feel guilty posting about acupuncture. I just wanted to know if anyone had any experience of it before trying it. I'm really having trouble as I can't use my right arm without a lot of pain.
GN is really helpful for this sort of thing. I'd posted last month about what to wear to a function with the dress code "business dress". It was just a tiny problem but I wanted your advice.
The political threads though?? Yikes. They should come with a government health warning!

Serkeen what do you know of annsixty's life to say she is being unreasonable?
She is being honest and no doubt voicing opinions which others may have considered.

Sounds like u r having a bit of a bad day and venting a bit on GN

That's fine, that's what GN can be about.

And it's also about people being able to come on here and have a chat with regulars and even newbies like myself.

I think you know that you are being a tad un reasonable I think GN should be for all, those who wish to speak about the weather or their garden or what they had for diner! or for people that wish to speak about and maybe get advice or hear another persons angle on stuff that they have going on in their lives.

Hope your day got better, if not tomorrow is another day

What may seem a frivolous post to some may be troubling to the person posting it,

Don't leave Ann, you have given your opinion which you are free to do. If you are going through a bad patch then definite not the time to leave X

I don't think the objection, if any, is to "frivolous" threads which lighten our spirits phoenix but rather perhaps the trivial posts which are made out to be "problems"
I may be wrong, but that is how I read OP.

Frivolous is OK, Phoenix, and I am sure Ann will agree with that. It raises a laugh and takes the mind off intractable problems. So are posts about unimportant things, the things that we would chat about to a neighbour we met over a cup of coffee. I think what ann may be finding annoying is the way some things which really don't matter a toss are argued about to the point of people verbally coming to blows.

P6 is Primary Six year - about 11-years old, when girls in particular fall out spectacularly with their best friends over nothing.

Since my sister died in a road accident. I have marked every problem in my life on a scale from 1 - 10. Not surprisingly, most of problems come in at 2 or under. But this doesn't stop the little problems being the most annoying and the ones that wind me up most.

For the last month I have been urgently trying to fill in a form that has to be done on line. But I cannot get into the system. It will not accept my password or any of the replacements I have been given.The amount of stress this has caused is quite out of proportion to the problem, but it would do me no good telling me that compared with the major problems in life this is trivial. For some reason I can cope with those, but this problem (now solved) brought me close to giving up some voluntary work associated with it.

Life is any way made of light and shade. When my sister died and we sat in shock in her house, her cats did something silly and we all started laughing.So often when life is at its worst something happens to lighten it.

GN would be uncope-able with if people only used to discuss all that is dark in their lives. Life itself is made of light and dark and on GN we want to offer help and solace to those who most need it, offer brisk advice if we think that is what is needed and have a good giggle as well.

I, like many, have had many serious things going on in my life, death by suicide of my youngest son, nearly having our house repossessed last year, but I post stuff that may be considered "frivolous", and will continue to do so

(Or continue so to do, .

Long live frivolous threads, there is more to GN than politics, games and angst.

I will sign off with my usual (possibly "frivolous" thing),

Could be wrong, often am.