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Alima Tue 31-Oct-17 14:53:00

Oh NanKate I know how you feel! How I wanted to kill the bar...d who caused my DD2 so much pain and anguish. How frightened we were for her wellbeing (and safety) and our baby grandsons’. She has been safely away from him for over two years and in that time my feelings have calmed. Initially the anger and hatred were palpable, the thoughts in my head about getting rid of the evil sh... are gone. Although I know that sort of thinking would not achieve anything and was detrimental to my own health it was how it was.
You and your DH, stay strong and stay together. I hope your family member affected by this will get through this awful time and be all the stronger.

NanKate Tue 31-Oct-17 14:35:33

I am a non church going Christian who tries to live by Christian values. However I am shocked with my feelings of hatred and revenge I have for two people who have caused one of my family deep distress, mental cruelty and humiliation. It has affected me and DH too and we are only just keeping our heads above water.

I do not want to go further into the details of what has happened but my mind is full of ways to seek revenge. Words I would like to use when I am confronted by them. I feel ashamed at my thoughts and my need to seek redress for their cruel actions.

Of course I won't do anything as other close family members are involved.

Have any of you sought revenge and did it help ?