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To want a tattoo

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Kacee Sat 04-Nov-17 11:45:41

I have over the last few months had the urge to get a tattoo. Just a small one on the inside of my wrist.

When I told my grown up daughters both of their responses were the same 'MOTHER' ( a term kept for when I want something they don't agree with) don't be so ridiculous.

I might add that they both have tattoos themselves al be it very discreet ones

My question is AIBU at 63 to want a small little tattoo

W11girl Sun 05-Nov-17 19:25:17

Age is immaterial. However, I think they look unsightly on women. So in one respect I agree with your daughters.

Iam64 Sun 05-Nov-17 18:53:03

Tattoos are something of the last taboo and rebellion in some families. I was horrified to find 17 year old youngest ironing in her undies, to see a collection of tiny stars just above the knicker line on her back. I survived the shock, still loved her, didn't disown her either.
Slightly older daughter came home from her first university term with a tattoo on her back. I ranted about the cost but she pointed out she paid out of her part time job,
I came home from town with a Unicorn on my upper arm a couple of months later. Talk about censorious, what have you done mum they cried in stereo, totally outraged. I let them think it was a permanent tattoo until the henna wore off - double standards eh

Lyndie Sun 05-Nov-17 18:47:55

I did. A little red heart on my shoulder. My girls had little black heart. We feel connected.

Bambam Sun 05-Nov-17 18:09:24

We are a tattoo-less family! I warned my twin- Gd's (19) going off to Malia with friends this year that if they came back with a tattoo I would disown them. Thankfully, their reply was "Eeeuuuwww!
Grandma, no way"!

Theoddbird Sun 05-Nov-17 18:03:20

I had one done, for my 50th birthday, on my leg just above my ankle...flowers, vines and tiny hearts. It is around 6 inches long. Most people do not notice it.

JOnand8en Sun 05-Nov-17 17:20:47

I'm 66 and have a tattoo of my twin grandsons names on one wrist and their date of birth on the other! I had one done on my shoulder many years ago before they became 'fashionable'. Go for it, life is far too short, enjoy!

Maggiemaybe Sun 05-Nov-17 17:08:22

Yes of course, do it if you want! I have had the occasional hanker... When my first DGS was born I thought about getting a discreet little footprint with his initial(s) or DOB inside on my wrist. Three years down the line I’d have had to have 4 of them, and who knows how many I’d eventually have ended up with marching up my arm?! grin

CGORST Sun 05-Nov-17 16:41:59

Well my opinion is, if you really want one - do it! It has nothing to do with anybody else. So what if they tut-tut at you? You are a person with your own thoughts, feelings and opinions and you were that person before you were a wife and mother. If people disapprove it's up to them. It would be nice if they supported you but once it's done it's done. It's not like you want to have SATAN tattooed across your knuckles or anything is it but even if you did, would it really affect anybody else's life?

ctussaud Sun 05-Nov-17 16:01:05

They are beyond dreadful and don’t make anyone look better.

lovebeigecardigans1955 Sun 05-Nov-17 15:46:23

It's your body but personally I'm not keen on tattoos. They are so permanent and I sometimes feel that we're programmed to go off the things which we once loved. This is what the fashion industry relies on - though I have to say that there are some things which I loved when I was young, some of them I may still like but others not so much. Is it a regret waiting to happen? Only you can say.

Stellarmaris Sun 05-Nov-17 15:17:20

I would like a small one on the inside of my wrist but have quite skinny arms and the veins look close to the surface.... worried it might be a painful area?

SueLindsey Sun 05-Nov-17 15:17:06

Go ahead,its your body!! I had a small tattoo at 64 and have never regretted it (its a puffin for the Puffin Books I loved as a child). My friends and daughter were impressed and a couple of friends have now done the same. Just make sure you go to a reputable tattoo parlour.

Grannyanna12345 Sun 05-Nov-17 14:50:59

I've been thinking I'd like one for a while too. New studio opened near me, and I keep looking in the window ..... don't know what though ....

Vero122 Sun 05-Nov-17 14:50:30

At the age of 60 I had a small discreet tattoo on the inside of my wrist, my daughters initial, traced from her actual writing, and it makes me smile every time I look at it. We lost her to breast cancer at the age of 33, and I remember when she wanted one done at the age of 18 and I wasn't keen! How she'd be laughing with me now!

Lona Sun 05-Nov-17 14:21:17

I got a tattoo when I was about 53, a small blue bird with a red rose in its beak. We were walking past the shop and I just went in on impulse. I like the fact that no one can see it unless I take my clothes off.
However, I hate to see them on other people, the full sleeves are horrible e.g..David Beckham.
It's your body, do what you want to, ignore what anyone else thinks.

BBbevan Sun 05-Nov-17 14:18:13

As I said , I would like a tattoo but not where it shows, When we were on holiday we went to a grandish dinner. All the ladies wore lovely ball gowns. One young woman looked lovely until she turned around and the low cut back of her dress was filled by a tattoo of an eagle wrestling with a snake
It might have had significance for her but it was not a pretty sight

HelenTracy Sun 05-Nov-17 14:13:14

I have 4. Done a good few years ago when I was younger but discreet and I think pretty. Nobody can see them when I'm fully clothed. I don't regret any of them as they all mean something to me, from a very important time of my life. I still dither from time to time about getting a very tiny one on my wrist or even behind my ear. I do think that very heavy and very visible tatts aren't particularly feminine but each to their own. How about a really tiny one that could be added to at a later date if you feel so inclined? But basically do what the hell you want and sod the rest of them! Isn't that what being mature is all about? Pleasing yourself at last and not doing stuff to please everyone else! X

Elisabeth68 Sun 05-Nov-17 14:07:55

My tattoo, a botanical drawing of 3 tulips, representing my 3 sons, was my present to myself for my 70th birthday
All 3 responded differently, but ultimately were 'honoured. Go for it. I love mine placed on the outside of my right calf. To those that say what happens when you get old and wrinkly? Nothing, as I am already!!

Sunlover Sun 05-Nov-17 13:58:25

Whilst sitting in a bar on holiday this year one of my friends in her 50's jumped up from her seat. She then went off and got a tattoo on her thigh. Just like that!! It actually looked quite nice. She had no regrets the next day.

annerogers Sun 05-Nov-17 13:53:12

This is mine on my shoulder and it didn't hurt a bit

gillyknits Sun 05-Nov-17 13:52:59

I say ‘go for it’! I would love to have a tiny one but because my skin bruises if I just breathe on it, then I know I would end up with a purple blob. My husband had a fit at just the thought of it!

henbane Sun 05-Nov-17 13:23:55

Go for it! Personally I don't like tats but did get various bits of me pierced in my fifties!

Only thing to remember is, if you're still working, you may need to keep it covered - depends on what you do but there is still prejudice in some roles.

Leah50 Sun 05-Nov-17 13:04:59

Go for it Kacee. I've had the poppy garland on my upper arm for 20 years, a present from our daughters on my recovery from a serious illness when I was 46. My husband wasn't keen as he has a couple of smudgy, poorly done tattoos from his youth, but it 's my skin & I still love my bit of body art. A quite straight-laced friend in her late 60's has recently had the butterfly tat she's always wanted on her upper arm...it's beautiful! Enjoy.

Sheilasue Sun 05-Nov-17 13:01:38

Why not go for it. If I could muster up the courage I would want one of my late sons name and birth on the inside of my wrist.

lilihu Sun 05-Nov-17 12:49:41

This is me- I hate them. The thought of having one makes me feel slightly nauseous. When I see older people with one I cringe. When I see younger people with them, I cringe and feel sorry for them, having made, in my opinion, a foolish choice to make themselves look cheap. I hate the garish limited colours & the often amateur / ugly designs.
However, we are all wonderfully different. One person collects pot frogs, another likes abstract art. Some dye their hair electric blue, others embrace grey.
It’s a VERY personal choice.
However what I would endorse, is to consider carefully. If you have any doubts, delay doing it. Think about how you feel about things you’ve done in the past - do you still love the types of jewellery, collectibles, colours etc you liked a few years ago. If not, will you start to dislike your tattoo. As others have suggested, try some temporary tattoos first.