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Does anyone else really hate this time of year ?

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Floradora9 Sat 16-Dec-17 13:24:01

Am I alone in being so depressed by all this Christmas stuff being rammed down our throats ? I really cannot stand the music in the shops and even outside our local Asda to-day . I hear about Christmas eve boxes for children , elfs on shelf and people were in an uproar because a garden centre was told by Warner Brothers to take down their Harry Potter themed display . What ever did Harry Potter have to do with Christmas ? If only it was a Christian festival with carols kept in the church I would be happy but every year it gets worse. I always give to feed homeless people at Christmas and gave lots of toys to our local toy appeal but as for the rest bah humbug . Someone did a poll and asked people if they would be happy if it all went overnight and over 50 % said they would be.
Believe me I do not grudge the money for presents for the DGC or the cost of food and drink but I just really cannot stand the rest . A friend agreed with me that one of the problems is all the memories it brings back and the feeling of guilt that maybe you could have done more for some members of your family at this time . Please just knock me out until the third of January.

tiffaney Sun 17-Dec-17 11:12:41

I love Christmas but l hate the commercialisation of it. It seems to be all about the big sell these days. I am not really a great believer in God but l do have a Christian spirit and l think the whole meaning of the Christmas story, whether it's true or not, is lost. Its just the way the world is today.

Izzywizzy Sun 17-Dec-17 11:12:51

I used to love Christmas when I was younger and there were children around to add to the fun and excitement but now I find Christmas sad. The family is slowly disappearing and this year it will be with my parents who both have Alzheimer's . So I can't get jolly but I wish lots of happiness and fun to those with busy families,though I know that can bring its own problems!
And for those who are alone and lonely, I wish you a peaceful day because in the end that's all it is,just another day and for some it's best not to think too much about it.

Anniebach Sun 17-Dec-17 11:13:28

referring to The Morning Star was an insult? Surely not, it was founded in 1930, just change of name from Daily Worker.

margrete Sun 17-Dec-17 11:14:03

I agree with much that has been written. I don't 'hate' Christmas, but for my DH and me it is largely a non-event. When it comes to watching TV we record a lot of it and zap the adverts. Christmas should not encompass the whole of December and much of November. It is just a bore.

lovebooks Sun 17-Dec-17 11:14:10

Used to love it until I lost my husband four years ago. Now I can't wait for it to be over. Will travel a very long way to be with our lovely daughter and family, and no, I won't be a grump - how could I be when they're all so kind and loving? But I'll still be relieved when it's all over - we used to have such great Christmasses, just the two of us.

cazdk Sun 17-Dec-17 11:14:30

I so agree with the idea of Christmas every 5 years, but the shops won't.
Now that the bible's been almost rewritten to fit in with modern ideas, and many people don't believe in God, then whose birthday are we celebrating?
It can be a cruel time of year with it being rammed down our throats, and getting to be made feel like failures because we're not out there partying and don't have loads of people dropping in to see the new sofa that was, as promised, delivered in time for Christmas. September the 4th was the first ad I saw in TV promising that! Who needs a new sofa for Christmas?
Christmas music blaring out in every shop makes me want to find a silent shop, and what about the non-Christians working in those shops? We're supposed to say 'Happy Holidays' so as not to offend, but it can be sang about!
When you have small children and 3 generations get together it can be fun, but as children get older they ask for exactly what they want. In my grandchildren's case it was new phones, and they got them two weeks before Christmas! Isn't it more exciting to wait?
I'll be glad when the whole thing's over as will countless people who have to spend it alone without even shops, libraries etc being open to spend time in with other people around.

Victoria08 Sun 17-Dec-17 11:15:10

I really dislike Christmas Day, although I have grandsons, two of which will be their father and the other I will spend it with and DD. Trouble is, neither of us enjoy cooking the Christmas dinner.
It's always a big stress fest, and I loath it.
Last year we went to a restaurant for Xmas dinner, but not this year.
If someone said, come round to ours for dinner, I would be there like a shot.

Merry Christmas everyone.

Mumsyface Sun 17-Dec-17 11:15:55

For me any excuse for a party and a holiday is a good excuse. Any excuse to spend time with family members I don’t see enough of is a good excuse. I’m very fortunate to have DCs and DGC.
However, I do sometimes feel that the commercialisation spread by the media is a type of emotional blackmail which feeds the sense of loneliness and loss felt by those who have no close friends or family, or have lost loved ones recently, at Xmas or through war or crime. It must be devastating for them and seriously difficult to ignore the message that they should be enjoying themselves with family.
Apparently suicide and divorce rate increase at this festive time of the year.

Foxygran Sun 17-Dec-17 11:17:51

Jaycee5, I totally agree with your comments. Well said.

Friday was only responding to the first insult about the Morning Star. Is she not entitled to defend herself?

We're all entitled to an opinion and we've been asked to offer one and so let's be kind to one another. Especially as it's meant to be the season of goodwill.

Noreen3 Sun 17-Dec-17 11:20:28

I don't like Christmas either.My husband is in a care home,I'm not sure how much longer I'll have him for.I think Christmas starts too early in the shops,a lot of people don't like Christmas very much,and there's just too much of it.I've had to come out of places if they're full of happy looking people and Christmas things everywhere.It's difficult if you've someone who's not well,or have lost someone at this time of year.

Rocknroll5me Sun 17-Dec-17 11:22:01

It has got so silly now I am not affected. For instance I decided for the first time yesterday to go into Leeds centre to get some presents. I thought the car parks will be full....I must be mad but no. Plenty of spaces and very spacious shopping experience with great help. This is because people have apparently already bought and wrapped their presents. The Guardian full of Xmas tv... the trolley man in Waitrose wished me happy Xmas... it’s 10 days away I laughed. The world’s gone mad. Last Thursday on the 7th of December The Nnew Sstatesman Christmas edition was published....this weekly paper next edition till 4th Jan...it’s so silly it has surely fired itself up its own bum.

Noreen3 Sun 17-Dec-17 11:22:34

sorry,meant to say-It's difficult,don't know what happened to my typing.

allule Sun 17-Dec-17 11:22:40

Do we have Scrooge's ghosts hanging around?

Christmas past, with children, families and energy;
Christmas present, when everything is so much harder;
And Christmas future, that we daren't think about.

Oh dear.

SillyNanny321 Sun 17-Dec-17 11:23:05

Was fed up with Christmas till my lovely DS said I would be going to spend the day with him, his lovely wife & my gorgeous GC! Had been thinking it would be just another day on my own with no chance of even a walk if it was snowy or icy out due to dodgy legs. So more happy now but still tuning out all the adverts & buy this buy that on tv & radio. It is lovely for children though who believe in Santa wish more children could enjoy it!

Jaycee5 Sun 17-Dec-17 11:23:29

Victoria8 Buy as much ready prepared as you can. It does make it easier and why not, it's Christmas after all.

Jaycee5 Sun 17-Dec-17 11:25:30

Anniebach You know very well you meant it as an insult. You do it too often and then plead innocence which unfortunately some people fall for.

Anniebach Sun 17-Dec-17 11:26:46

May I suggest Foxygran and Jaycee read the posts again, if Christians can be mocked as sheep on a hillside awaiting a celestial choir why should they not reply ?

No more to say on this

Jaycee5 Sun 17-Dec-17 11:28:34

Noreen3 I sympathise. I have had some Christmases which were very difficult for personal reasons and the forced jollity felt very oppressive. You feel that you just have to grit your teeth and get through it. My mother is in her 90s and I speak to her on the phone on Christmas Day but I always feel that it may be the last Christmas. She has trouble following the conversation now which she is very aware of so it is difficult.
At least now it is possible to avoid Christmas TV with some many different ways to watch things, DVDs etc. The only consolation for people in your situation is that it will pass. Best wishes.

MawBroon Sun 17-Dec-17 11:29:14

Love it or loathe it I think it is wrong to hate any time we have on this earth.
Yes Christmas is over commercialised - but only if you let it.
It is perfectly possible to tune out the TV ads and Christmas specials (literally) , to eat “non festive “food and ignore the turkey extravaganzas, to resist the advertising - again, ignore it.
We are adults with free will and if something bothers you, watch/read /do something else.
I have no great enthusiasm for the “festive jollity”this year but I do welcome th extra effort we will make to meet up with friends and family and Christmas provides that focus.
Feelings of guilt or memories? Those are not only triggered by Christmas anyway. And happy memories are too precious to be packed away with the decks on January 6.
So instead of moaning about something (in the words of that TV programme of my children’s childhood) “Why don’t you ...switch off your TV and do something else?”
In this case, not specifically the TV but the whole caboodle.

inishowen Sun 17-Dec-17 11:30:53

Thank you for starting this topic! I am feeling so stressed today as I have hardly any presents bought. I just have to go into Tesco and I feel panic setting in. Last week DH and had a weeks holiday in Lanzarote. Oh what a difference. The hotel had put up a few decorations, one shop had a small Christmas tree, that was it. There seems to be a collective madness here in UK. I want to scream for it all to stop.

Jaycee5 Sun 17-Dec-17 11:31:22

Anniebach You are very sensitive to anyone making jokes about Christianity but fail to show the same sensitivity to others. Maybe try to turn the other cheek.

Anniebach Sun 17-Dec-17 11:32:56

A reply to a question is not moaning. If someone asked do hate snow and some replied yes are they moaning ?

Anniebach Sun 17-Dec-17 11:34:37

And why should my faith be a joke but a atheists non faith not be a joke ?

Jaycee5 Sun 17-Dec-17 11:34:55

inishowen I wonder if it ever will? We seem to have got the balance wrong. I like it but just not so much of it.

MawBroon Sun 17-Dec-17 11:35:46

Decs not decks.
And lay off anniebach please (polite request) smile