Or even a bit precious? Mother of the Bride outfit.

Get something comfortable that you can relax and enjoy yourself in..........and maybe pick up smll children for hugs or help people who might need a hand..........I always end up taking the oldest people to the toilets and cudding the kids.

MOB...........???? Sounds so pretentious when you can be fabulous family member and have a lovely frock to wear again.

My best tip, whatever your size, is to wear GOOD underwear. Take your chosen outfit to a good underwear shop (not M&S) and try different undies with it. I'm a standard 12 but look miles better when wearing my good underwear!

I also think that curvy plump women look far more attractive than skinny women.

Enjoy the day .....

MarionHalcombe......whatever you end up wearing as MOB, just make sure you get yourself professionally fitted underwear. It'll make all the difference to how you look and feel. If the shop you're intending buying your outfit from is an independent shop, they should be able to recommend one!
As for worrying about your outfit, don't! Leave buying until nearer the time and look at the new stock which will be arriving over the next few months.
I bought my outfit on a day out with DH. No intention of buying, saw an outfit in shop window, went in and the rest as they say is history!

Have you actually tried it on? I feel now I was talked into my first MOB outfit but for other two DC I really looked at all kinds of outfits no 2 wedding MOG bought something which I then wore many times, wedding 3 chose very carefully as MOB only to find MOG wore something very similar. What ever you choose it will look dated in the photos pretty soon. Good luck and have fun choosing.

Just because she is skinny it doesn't mean the dress will look better in a size 10 than a 14. Just enjoy the day and I'm sure your smile will be what everyone remembers

Our daughter got married last summer. We lso have a son, he and his girlfriend don't plan to get married, so I knew in advance this would be my only chance to be Mother Of The Bride. I chose a dress that suited me in all ways and wouldn't put my daughter in the shadow, she agreed totally with my choice, and just like with her wedding dress we didn't tell or show anyone!

Feeling dispirited at being size 14 - I only wish I was back in that size again! This envy of skinnies is not good and honestly, do they really look that wonderful? Keep looking - and keep it to yourself in future.

Your daughter is getting married, its her day, no-one will really worry about what you wear, how you wear it, why you are are wearing it....its all about your girl, yes, in all honestly you are being precious!

Just be happy! x ps size 14 is the perfect size

You're not going to be at the same wedding are you? Why worry? Why should a size 10 look better than a size 14 anyway? I wouldn't say you are being 'precious' but I think you are worrying over nothing. Buy a dress you like that you will feel comfortable in. What does it matter if someone at a later wedding buys something similar? Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery after all. Enjoy the wedding x

Can’t get my head around these MOB outfits.
I’ve been MOB twice and went out of my way to buy something I looked fabulous in?but were wearable later. Like Jane one of mine came from coast the other from a small shop in town. I still wear both. I do find that cutting edge fashion is sooo over rated!

I’d worry if it was the same wedding , but a different wedding? It’s later this year which gives you a lot of time to think about it. I made my own outfits for my childrens’ weddings, so I knew no one else would be wearing the same thing. One was navy blue, the other dark fuschia, so no MOB pastels. You could hire a seamstress to make you an outfit if you want something special.

Crumbs. I thought it was the Brides special day. The shop sells to whom ever wishes to buy. It’s not exclusive to you.

Take your focus away from yourself and place it on the Bride. It’s about her not you.

I’m sure whatever you wear you look great !

MarionHalcombe I don't think you're being precious, just human.

I can imagine how you feel and if it were me, I would try on the outfit and if it's everything you imagined then buy it. If it's not perfect or you're not going to be able to put out of your mind the image of the other woman wearing it, then I think I would look for something else.

I've been MOB three times, and the third time, after a couple of fruitless shopping trips, ended up wearing a dress that I knew I'd love and feel great in because I'd bought and worn it the previous NYE. It sounds as though you've found your own perfect outfit, and that's all that matters. Why worry about what other women choose to wear at other weddings?

I've done 4 weddings. None were typical MOB or MOG. One was a soft falling trouser outfit from M & S. Others were ankle length, and one was worn twice as I liked it so much. Lots of the same people were at the two weddings where I wore the same outfit. I just changed the jewellery. Wear what you love and walk tall.

Precious? Where do you get that from?
Selfish?
If you want an entirely unique outfit, you will have to pay couture prices.
Who is to say she will look better than you?
Will lots of the same people be at both weddings?
Don’t be a dog in the manger , it’s a free country and she has a perfect right to turn up in a puce miniskirt or a bin bag if she so pleases.

The only things I didn't keep were the shoes!

I agree with LEMONGROVE I've been MOB twice and wore things that I could wear again in fact I have a jacket thats now 16 years old from D's 1st wedding that I still wear now and again .I bought from high st retailers dress and jackets that could be worn together or seperately in colours that I wear a lot .Anything ellse would have been a total waste of money .The only proviso when choosing MOB is making sure MOG doesn't wear the same colour as far as I'm concerned ..its a bit like all the men wearing the same kilt .Looks like a unifrom ..or a pipe band .lol

Just avoid the MOB look, it’s ageing.
Being a vision of pale blue etc just isn’t me ( have had a few weddings under my belt now! and went for things that suited me and suited the time of year.Clothes that I could wear again at no huge cost either.I felt ‘me’ and relaxed.

1. You will look better at size 14 than she will at size 10. Truly. Work those curves!

2. It doesn't matter if people know what you paid. Your money!

3. There's only really six basic styles in women's clothes. It's the accessories that make or break. Really work on those.

Wear the outfit you love with confidence. ?

Probably off the point but I never remember people's outfits only happy faces and happy atmosphere. I do worry about what I wear though which maybe doesn't add up.

I'm very envious of anyone with a shape that looks good, size 10 or 20. I've lost almost 2 stone but am not a good shape if you know what I mean.

I do know that it's her day, she's going to be a radiantly happy and beautiful bride, that doesn't mean that I don't want to feel good in myself on the day and when I look back on photos.

I described our family wedding as big because it was a more formal do than had ever happened with family and friends previously. It had half the guest list of many other weddings we've been involved with in recent years.

With any ‘outfit’ it’s not the dress that’s all that important.
It’s what you wear with it and the accessories that you choose that make it personal to you.

For my two DDs weddings I bought dresses from Coast.
Thousands of other women must have bought them too.
Was I bothered? No.
It sounds as though you’re jealous of the mutual friend’s size 10 figure.