Gransnet makes me feel lonely

I'm hoping all is well in the Caff, Marydoll. Your lot are great bunch of laydees.

Hello, jamsidedown please call into the kitchen and make yourself comfortable. It is a pleasant place and you will soon get to know some friendly folk.

Thank you both. I try to apply reason and logic to my opinions and it’s nice to be recognised.

I don’t think GNHQ realise how important this is.

I think a like button is a good idea. The competitiveness will be there with or without it.

OldMeg - a case of Gran knows best! I agree with all you say - “Like” !

The arguement against that like button from GNHQ is something to do with it introducing some kind of competiveness which is ridiculous. What they don’t realise it that people like yourself Jams feel marginalised and there are many on this thread saying the same. A like button would fulfil three functions.

Firstly, it would simply indicate ‘I agree’ and that would make a poster feel included.

Secondly it would offer silent support to those being overwhelmed/browbeaten/whatever by more dominant posters.

Finally when there is something you would have liked to comment on but the post was a day or so ago and things have moved on, then you could acknowledge that person’s contribution.

But GNHQ apparently know what’s best for us old biddies.

It would be great if there was a Like facility on here as with Facebook, as I like so many of your posts!

All so true! You have to take GN with a pinch of salt and a bit of a thick skin. It's not very nice when your posts are apparently ignored but I suspect that happens a lot of the time as people do mainly like to talk about themselves. It would be nice if there was a 'like' button then at least you would know that someone had responded even if they didn't actually reply. Keep posting, jam. This thread of yours has been very well received!

Hello Jamsidedown love your name. I'm not on here much but I have made a very good friend through Gransnet and on the other side have had a few nasty comments too. For me its like a virtual coffee morning. If someone doesn't want to speak to me or wants to be nasty I move on and talk with the nice people. I tend to stay with the lighter threads as I find day to day life contentious enough and living with someone who soaks up all the news and talks politics day and night that's quite enough for me. Just keep joining in and keep it fun.

Thank you Kittylester... I do post more than I used to and quite enjoy it all really in spite of my grumbling!
I am now over 80, - very very old! But still have all my marbles.

BlueBelle at the moment I'm over the 50 thread limit on my page, but I only look at the ones that have new posts. It's time for another tidy up!

I'm another one who usually sticks to the I'm on and Last hour pages. Sometimes I'm on here in the middle of the night when there's not much going on and I'll check out the Active page, but I should really look at the Unanswered page to be more supportive.

Those of you who think you're invisible, well you're not! Even if I don't reply to you, I do read your posts.

jamsidedown there is longstanding poster on here who has changed her name because she felt her username was rather downbeat. She was encouraged to go for something more cheerful.

If you think you are unlucky you might end up with a sort of self fulfilling prophecy. Don't become an "Eeyore".

winterwhite we are not cliquy, it is just that we all post on the threads that interest us, and to take an obvious subject, politics, there are a group of GN members who are very interested in politics so there names can be found on all the political threads. The same applies to other subjects, family problems for example or games. No-one is excluded, just join in and post away

jsd, have a look down the list of threads under 'Food' in the Forum list. This one might help www.gransnet.com/forums/food/1241301-New-to-making-chutney-and-jelly-jams

Never made jam! Have tried making chutney but it never seems to turn out as nice as the shop bought stuff - maybe there’s a thread for this that can help me ...

winterwhite, having met Soop at the last Edinburgh meet up, I can confirm, as will others, that she is one of the nicest people you could meet.
Just introduce yourself in the kitchen and you will be assured of a very warm welcome.

sorry, I will stop referencing that now.

You must be a bit fed up with it.

and bring some jam sandwiches

soop is a person Winterwhite . It’s called Soops Kitchen because I believe she started it. It’s been going a while. The concept is that it’s very unlike the cut and thrust of some of the ‘livelier’ threads .

It’s a gentle place, there are NEVER any harsh words just a group of people chatting about their real lives. Sharing their worries and having a laugh together.

It does move really quickly though. Come in introduce yourself , and dive right in.

Good luck jamsidedown. I am quite new too. I agree that threads can seem cliquey at times but see that as inevitable. Also agree that the range of advice and sympathy to those in trouble is heart warming. I'll stick my own neck out now and say that I don't understand the Soop kitchen concept at all. What does Soop mean? I've opened the thread a couple of times, read in bemusement (if there is such a word) and shut it again.
Keep going.

Nellie
I really should go and get the dinner

If we all commented on each post we would never get off our backsides and do anything else.

Brilliant thread,Felt the same myself at one point but I love GN and its members,I enjoy starting threads to get something out of my head and onto paper as it helps me a lot! I've had threads e.g re our dog Molly on the Pets forum and received so many beautiful,helpful posts that I felt really touched,there are snipes occasionally but I just tell myself it's their opinion,so enjoy GN..I promise there are always people here(lots&lots) who care...?

I just had a look and there is a whole list of unanswered OPs.

I like your name jamsidedown but every time I see it I have an urge to go and make a jam butty.

Do you make jam btw? There is often a thread or two on jam-making in late summer.

Thank you everyone for all your comments, maybe I just need to try harder .... I am a peaceable person too, so tend to keep some of my more controversial views to myself! When I am lurking and reading posts in the future I will think of all of you who feel the same as me - thank you for the encouragement ?

NonnaW good to hear from you too