AIBU coats on chair-backs

Which is more important to you, spending time with your visitors or worrying about where they've left their coats? I think you're missing the whole point of spending time with people.

Usually, one tells visitors where to put coats- either " sling them on the newel post" or in an adjacent room, or explain " I'll just put them upstairs" in the spare bedroom. What's the problem? I only have a tiny space at the back of my small, period cottage, so bought a classic bentwood office coat/hat stand. This could solve a lot of problems for people with hallways. Alas, in my case, the coat stand is fully burdened with pp my coats!

Yes YABU. Just be glad you have family who visit. If it really annoys you then put them in the cupboard yourself.

I love it that my grandchildren treat the house like their own; shoes dumped in the hall, coats hung anywhere. After all they take it all with them when they leave so order is restored then, even if the house is a sadder place without them and their messy ways.

Now I would be upset if I didn’t get greeted with a hug and a clamour to explain their latest news. That’s what really matters.

I agree Gracesgran. I think it's very rude to require people to take off tgeir shprs (unless its been snowing ot they've been tramping through mud. A quick wipe on the mat's fine. I hate having to expose my bunyons and possibly holey socks at a social gathering.
Dh hates the jumble of shoes people (relatives) leave at the door with the best of intentions so we now have a shoe rack to keep them tidy. And pegs for coats. But coats on chairs or newel post doesn't bother me in the slightest if it's temporary.

And I agree that the most important thing is that they visit and it's lovely to see them in spite of the noise and chaos. It's soon tidied up when they leave.

Sorry if it offends you that some of us are old-fashioned regarding our surroundings.
I don't think it's particularly old-fashioned grandtante - I has a DM who liked everything just so and a DMIL who, to be it kindly, was not tidy!

If someone is coming to stay I would show them where to put things but if they're just coming for a couple of hours or the afternoon it wouldn't bother me if they leave their coats on the newel post or the hall radiator.

Some people are more tidy than others, my intentions are good but I never manage to achieve a very tidy house.

had a DM

oh dear, should check first, a DMIL who, to put it kindly,

I must have done too much cleaning this morning, at least one room looks immaculate (our shower room which no-one else will see anyway).

It used to bother me (I’m tidy and organised) but not anymore. DC and DGC are here and gone and I can tidy up afterwards. Friends I can intercept and hang their coats etc where I want them to be. I think GN has made me more tolerant with so many estranged from their families and others lonely.
I’m sure Grande doesn’t make people feel unwelcome and that’s the main thing.

Don’t get me started on people who come into my house and don’t take off their shoes! The reason there’s a jumble of shoes in my hall is because the family always take their shoes off as do close friends.

I wouldn’t ask acquaintances or casual visitors to do so, though many do, but I will certainly be busy with the disinfectant and floor mop after these leave.

I just think that it is nice to have visitors.

That’s annoys me too and so does it when people get up from the dinner table and don’t push their chairs back in grrrrrr

When people arrive I take their coats and put them where I want. I'm just glad to have visitors so really wouldn't mind where they put their things.

I hate it too. My husband does it all the time...so irritating.

Visitors with coats. Now what are they.

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest, it is temporary. However if they wore outdoor shoes inside I would be very annoyed.

Good grief, is this a serious question? If so YABU

Putting a visitor's coat on the bed would be an invitation for our cat to make himself very comfortable - and leave a lot of fur!

GrandtanteJE65, we all have our little quirks & idiosyncrasies, so I don’t think you are being unreasonable, but you are being ignored, which is probably because you are a nice person who doesn’t want to make a fuss,so you put up with it & your family & friends don’t realise quite how much it irritates you, so I guess you either have to continue as you are & suffer in silence or collect the coats up & hang them yourself or stand at the door & take them when they come in.Please try to ignore the comments of the Pedantic on here , who never misses a chance to belittle or put someone down .

You are not alone in posting a subject in what is deemed to be the wrong catagory, they take it very seriously you know?

Hooks in the hall and newel post are fine. Chez DD we usually end up hanging them over the dining chairs because the hooks in the hall are crammed with DD's, DSIL's, and DGDs' clothes.

And unless their shoes are plastered in mud or worse, we greatly prefer our visitors to keep them on.

Is it only me who on reading the post from NanaNancy thought for a moment that she was hanging up her small doc's on the rack?

Must admit, that would be a good way to control the little devils!

Dgc's ! Damn tablet!

But surely they take their coats away with them, so it’s back to neat and tidy when they leave? Not something that bothers me.

It doesn't bother me at all. Our coats end up on the bannister, or over the kitchen chair. As we're in and out of the house all day we pick up our coats from what is a convenient place.