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Is it me?

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tidyskatemum Thu 01-Mar-18 19:19:31

There are loads of adverts on TV at the moment suggesting prezzies for Mother's Day. An awful lot of them seem to be promoting anti-wrinkle creams. Am I the only one who would be insulted if my nearest and dearest thought this an appropriate gift for me?

SusieB50 Fri 02-Mar-18 09:43:56

Totally agree mcem it is such an outrageous commercial event now,persuading people that they don't love their mothers unless they buy something. I'm happy to just see my grown up children if possible but both SiL and DiL mothers have not long died so they will be sad I know .They also have little ones who I hope have made special handmade cards .

Witzend Fri 02-Mar-18 09:46:04

Talk of violets, Jeannie, I do remember buying a bunch of plastic ones from Woolies with my pocket money - plus a ghastly 'silver' cup thing with something like 'Best Mother In the World' on it. I can't have been more than 9 or 10 and was very pleased with my presents.

To her credit, my mother kept the horrible things on her bedroom windowsill for years!

nannychris1 Fri 02-Mar-18 09:56:47

I ask my children not to buy me a gift for Mother’s Day...... there are generally 365 days in a year, they can choose a day that suits themselves to treat me in whatever way they wish but please please do not get caught up in a ‘commercial money making day’. That leaves them free to be with their own families and celebrate however they wish. Works really well.

dragonfly46 Fri 02-Mar-18 10:02:14

Anti- wrinkle cream is my mothers favourite present. She is 97!

dragonfly46 Fri 02-Mar-18 10:02:43

Also my DiL's favourite but of course hers is very expensive!

pollyperkins Fri 02-Mar-18 10:03:35

If my children bought me antiwrinkle cream (which they won't_ they send cards but not presents) it would be as a joke and I would roar with laughter! In any case I think these expensive face creams are vastly overrated and do no more than cheap ones like nivea do (ie keep skin hydrated.) Nothing really gets rid of wrinkles (except perhaps face lifts!)

M0nica Fri 02-Mar-18 10:06:40

To be honest the reason DC would never buy me anti wrinkle cream is because of my skin allergies. I have to be very careful what cosmetics I put on my face and I have not full identified what the problem substances are

kazziecookie Fri 02-Mar-18 10:07:10

My SiL bought me some really nice anti wrinkle cream for Christmas and I was really chuffed with it.
It was a very expensive one that I probably would have thought twice about spending that amount on myself, so it was a nice treat. (She did get me some lovely bath smellies as well)
My daughters usually send me a hand made card which is always lovely and they make really nice ones. One is in Australia at the moment and the other over a hundred miles away so probably will not be seeing them.
One year they had a delivery sent to me from ASDA with goodies like wine, shampoo, bath stuff etc in it. That was lovely when that turned up out of the blue.

Poppyred Fri 02-Mar-18 10:12:44

I hate the bladder incontinence and vaginal itching adverts, very sexist! Men suffer with incontinence too and jock itch lol

grandtanteJE65 Fri 02-Mar-18 10:15:56

Yes, I would be annoyed if anyone gave me anti-wrinkle cream, as I don't believe they have any effect.

Hurt - perhaps, quite unreasonably, as one glance in the mirror shows.

Like many others I have to be careful due to allergies, so any toiletries would probably be returned to the shop in exchange for something else.

Hm999 Fri 02-Mar-18 10:21:40

Someone asked me if I was being taken out for lunch on Mothers' Day. I was quite shocked a. At the notion b. At being her asking me.
Did she just want to tell me how she was being taken out to lunch then? Is it all my children love me more than your children love you? The ads are 'show your mum you love her so, by giving her something she doesn't want'.

sarahellenwhitney Fri 02-Mar-18 10:24:04

I get a present on my birthday and Christmas. My children have their own expenses mortgage etc etc and I made it clear long ago they were not to buy me anything on mothers day. I could do with an anti wrinkle cream but cringe at the thought what it would cost and from what I have seen in previous years flower prices are increased. A card for me is adequate.

yggdrasil Fri 02-Mar-18 10:37:01

My son phoned me recently to say he wasn't getting me anything becasue he thought it was crass commercialism. Since I actually agree, and you only throw the cards away after a few days, I said fine.
But I did tell him to send a card to his Granny, She is 99 years old and does like getting things :-)

Jeanniejoo Fri 02-Mar-18 10:37:33

Oh good, thank you for that.

MissAdventure Fri 02-Mar-18 10:38:00

Surely even a card is buying into commercialism?

sarahellenwhitney Fri 02-Mar-18 10:56:52

Not just Mothers Day. In one city shopping precinct I recently visited I observed three card shops.

sarahellenwhitney Fri 02-Mar-18 11:05:12

Poppyred .sad
'Stop the world I want to get off'

Juggernaut Fri 02-Mar-18 11:09:09

I get a card for Mothering Sunday and a small, cheapish present, usually dvd/cd/book.
One year however DS bought me the
Greedy Girl's Diet book, I have to say that I wasn't overly impressed with his choice!
My Mothering Sunday will be a week late this year as DDiL is also a mum, so it's fair to let her have 'the' day with DS & DGS!

Barmeyoldbat Fri 02-Mar-18 11:09:26

My gd when she was 8 wanted to buy her mother nicotine patch for Mother’s Day ?.

kwest Fri 02-Mar-18 11:13:04

I remember buying my mother Oil of Ulay for her 40th birthday. As a 14 year old I could not understand why she seemed less than thrilled.
If my daughter bought me some very expensive anti-wrinkle cream I would be delighted, even though that ship has sailed. She told me Celtic skin ages 13 times faster than Anglo-Saxon. I look in the mirror some mornings and wonder who on earth is staring back out at me. I find smiling seems to be the best cosmetic at my age (70),

Lynneo Fri 02-Mar-18 11:23:27

I agree with annsixty, give me something that MIGHT help

Maggiemaybe Fri 02-Mar-18 11:28:09

Nope, I wouldn't be insulted by any present anyone was kind enough to give me, nor would I laugh or moan about commercialism.

Years ago a Swiss customer of DH's, instead of giving him the obligatory bottle of Scotch etc for Christmas, handed over a huge box of top end Swiss day/night/neck/eye/hand creams and potions "for your wife". I was only in my 30s but was over the moon. Come to think of it, DD1 gave me some expensive facial oil last year and I was delighted. I might start dropping a few hints.....

Kim19 Fri 02-Mar-18 11:41:59

We don't practise any of these 'American'(?) celebrations. Never have done. However, thinking to the previous thread, maybe if it resulted in a meet-up, I may change my mind! Have bought anti-wrinkle when it's on throwaway price for stock clearance. Don't think it makes a jot of difference but like to use cream of some sort so why not that one methinks.

Maggiemaybe Fri 02-Mar-18 11:46:28

Mothering Sunday's not an American celebration, Kim19!

blueskies Fri 02-Mar-18 11:46:31

One year I ordered half a dozen jars of potted shrimps which my dil put straight in the freezer. She saves them for Sunday afternoon on toast by the fire when my son is away working.