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tidyskatemum Thu 01-Mar-18 19:19:31

There are loads of adverts on TV at the moment suggesting prezzies for Mother's Day. An awful lot of them seem to be promoting anti-wrinkle creams. Am I the only one who would be insulted if my nearest and dearest thought this an appropriate gift for me?

nanaK54 Thu 01-Mar-18 19:21:13

grin you are most certainly not being unreasonable

SueDonim Thu 01-Mar-18 19:29:41

Agreed, YANBU! It's like giving someone deodorant as a present. grin

vampirequeen Thu 01-Mar-18 19:29:51

Totally agree with you. If my girls get me anti-wrinkle cream I will smile sweetly on the outside and explode on the inside.

MissAdventure Thu 01-Mar-18 19:31:19

It wouldn't bother me. If it was something I used or might like, then I'd happily let someone else foot the bill.

granoffour Thu 01-Mar-18 19:32:54

YANBU! I also get quite hmm when I get anything cooking related - like a new pan!
Nice box of chocs will do me. My children tend to send me just a card for Mothers Day though. It's nice to be thought of but the visits are what I treasure most.

annsixty Thu 01-Mar-18 19:34:06

I actually ask for things like this.
I don't need flowers, I don't need chocs but I really need anti- wrinkle cream.
At 80 am I being unrealistic ?😁

MissAdventure Thu 01-Mar-18 19:37:04

My daughter often used to buy me nice face creams. By nice, I mean expensive, because she knew I would never treat myself.

Goodbyetoallthat Thu 01-Mar-18 19:38:41

Be careful what you wish for, a friend got given a washing line! 😊

tidyskatemum Thu 01-Mar-18 19:41:03

I think it's one thing if you've let them know it's something you'd like, quite another if they do it off the cuff!

MissAdventure Thu 01-Mar-18 19:43:33

Then you just spend the money you've saved on wrinkle cream on something nice for yourself.

Bridgeit Thu 01-Mar-18 19:58:10

I wouldn’t mind at all if it was a bit of luxurious one, might not be so happy if it was supermarket special 😁

Bathsheba Thu 01-Mar-18 20:05:28

It wouldn't bother me - it would show that my DC understand how it's important to me to look good, and that they know I'm not letting myself go. And let's face it, I am in my late 60's so how can anti-wrinkle cream be an insult?

midgey Thu 01-Mar-18 20:27:12

It’s better than Tena Ladies which my naughty eldest gave me one year! She was laughing a lot.angry

hildajenniJ Thu 01-Mar-18 20:31:12

Remember Oil of Ulay? My mother used to wish for it, so one year my sister bought her a jar for Mother's Day. She turned out to be allergic to it. I wouldn't thank anyone for anti wrinkle cream, unless I'd specifically asked for it. I'd prefer something completely frivolous 😃.

lemongrove Thu 01-Mar-18 20:50:01

My DD has graciously said that she will ‘come for lunch’😆
( as long as she brings a pressie!) Not face cream though.

Jane10 Thu 01-Mar-18 21:11:44

My DD is extremely good at presents. She arrived with an early Mothers Day present on Tuesday - a cashmere jumper and matching necklace. Only snag is that I don't feel posh enough to wear it. Sorry. Not trying to be smug. It just happened!

OldMeg Thu 01-Mar-18 21:29:53

Oh no! I bought my lovely sister in law (as opposed to the nasty one) a bottle of Bare Minerals facial serum for Chrismas. It cost quite a bit because 1) she’s a lovely person and 2) it’s cruelty free and she’s an animal lover and 3) ut works for me.

Does that mean I’ve insulted her? 🙄🤔😬🤓🙃

mcem Thu 01-Mar-18 22:01:55

Mine won't buy anti-wrinkle cream or anything else as I brought them up to ignore the crass commercialism of Mothers' Day!
It was different when Mothering Sunday meant cards, pictures or hand-made daffodils from Sunday school but inflated prices for flowers and expensive cards - no thanks.
(My birthday is around the same time so I'm much happier to have that recognised.)

nanasam Thu 01-Mar-18 22:36:34

midgey grin.
Reminds me of one Christmas, DD was 16 and still insisted on having a stocking. I put a box of Tampax in it! She still laughs about it.

M0nica Fri 02-Mar-18 08:45:57

Personally, I wouldn't say thank you for any of the rubbish advertised as the 'perfect' gift for Mum on Mothers Day.

My two will both send me a card (DS's will probably be a few days late because he forgot to post it,) and I am quite happy with that. Neither lives near enough for us to get together for a meal on the day.

Jeanniejoo Fri 02-Mar-18 09:37:00

I won't be getting anything. Only one daughter and she lives in Alabama. Their Mothers' Day is in May so I'll get a card around that time.

But I remember when my sister and I (quite young) used to walk up the high road to where the man selling newspapers had small bunches of violets tied in purple ribbon. We bought a bunch for mum. She loved them. Very little pocket money in those days but then nothing was too expensive really smile

Witzend Fri 02-Mar-18 09:41:35

Best M Day present I had was a couple of years ago, when a dd bought me a pair of very pretty and cosy (not frumpy old-lady ones!) lightweight slippers from Joules.

I eventually wore them out and asked for (and got) another pair for Christmas. Have also given the same as presents. I actually tried to buy another pair a few months before Christmas but apparently they didn't do slippers at that time of year.
I always like to get any sort of spring flowers, but Dh is invariably instructed to tell dds NOT to spend a lot of money!

Sheilasue Fri 02-Mar-18 09:41:52

I asked my d to buy me a top from next which I liked she did so I know what I am getting. She never buys me creams or makeup but often if we are out shopping she will comment on some make up they may suit me.
My sil bought me some lipsticks one Christmas and they were the colour I would wear so was pleased. I buy my own facial creams I know what I like.

annodomini Fri 02-Mar-18 09:43:22

Even if they gave me a voucher for a 'posh' shop, I wouldn't waste it on anti-wrinkle cream. That bird has long ago flown. I am happy to receive flowers and, although I tend to say 'no chocolates', I'm secretly rather pleased to be able to break the 'low carbs' rule - 'just this once'. grin