Weddings/Funerals in particular.

I've been to my share of funerals but can't recall many folks wearing black. Most just wear a nice colour. I've never bought new clothes for funerals . For weddings I've got a couple of nice outfits , and I might add some new accessories. No need to break the bank.

However to be fair, the outfit can be the least of it. And I disagree that black, navy or grey for funerals is more expensive!
If a wedding is some distance away, adding in overnight accommodation (even a Travelodge ) the present, flights or fares/fuel, taxis to the venue or parking. And of course the present.
Even without the outfit, you can be shelling out £ 100- 200 or more (sometimes much more! )
Of course we want to look our best especially for a family wedding (*those *pictures) but I will admit I have turned down invitations (from people we were not especially close to ) before now because of the overall expense.

The potential expense of Paws funeral worried me before he died, but the local undertakers were so nice and helpful and not ridiculously expensive. We chose the simplest oak coffin, natural fibre linings, a simple but beautiful spray for the top of the coffin made by a semi professional florist friend, bought a plot in the village churchyard and held the wake in the village pub who did all the catering. The DDs put a tab behind the bar and SIL organised the service sheets (and I suppose paid for them too, I forgot to ask!)
In total probably £5000 IMO not huge costs.

Its rare that I ever buy new, including for funerals and weddings.
I like to think I have my own 'style' (baglady)

I have a wedding coming up in summer,I cant see anything in the shops that I like and decided to wear a lovely dress and jacket I bought for my god daughters wedding 7 years ago.Well you'd think I'd committed a crime ,my OH ,my D and my friend all think I cant possibly wear the same outfit...even though its very unlikely there will be an overlap of guests .I think I'll stick with it though seems a shame not to give it another outing

Nobody has to spend a lot of money for such occasions. There is no reason not to wear the same outfit to ten weddings in a row. The only reason some people don't is that they think they will be ridiculed in some way for doing so. It's another form of "keeping up with the Joneses".

(or possibly they are just shopaholics who use it as an excuse for another shopping expedition).

Anniebach

I have one black shift dress which I’ve had for years and wear to some funerals, to others I’ll wear a black skirt and grey or black top. I don’t think it would be the norm to buy a new outfit for each funeral.

As for weddings or other dressy events I’ve got three dresses which I rotate and hopefully they’ll see me out.

My husband died over forty years ago and black was worn at funerals then. If now I think I would wear red because of the Welsh Dragon, he would very much approve of this ?, i dislike black and red

My body will go to medical science, as will my OHs. The only expense will be the party after to celebrate our lives
My MIL wore a beautiful pink suit to my FILs funeral. She looked fabulous. He was a wonderful life and soul of the party sort of person and would have hated anything dour and morbid.

Wearing black can't be a problem. The shops are full of nothing else. Tesco or Asda if you're hard up. But I can't think there's a woman out there that hasn't got something black.

I have one posh dress that I wear to any wedding. Plain navy, a great cut and ring the changes with (cheap) accessories. It's about 15 years old.

Actually, given the quality of service from the undertakers at my husband's funeral, I didn't feel at all ripped off. I thought it was a fair price for what they did.

It is years since I went to a wedding and none on the horizon.
Unless it was a GC I would be unlikely to accept.
I have been to lots of funerals in past years and have opted for black" bottoms" a white blouse and a long black cardigan , unless no black was requested.
Until a few years ago I believed it was disrespectful to wear trousers to a funeral but that has gone by the board now as times change, but I do hold on to a black , long skirt if I feel it is more appropriate.
I never wear hats to funerals, don't know why ,I just don't, I don't think I would wear one to a wedding now either.

Maw, it was the same for me when my husband died, I was criticised for wearing lipstick ?, I just wanted to look my best for him.

The only funeral I bought a new coat for was Paw’s
Perhaps retail therapy but I wanted to look my best for him.

I doubt if anyone would notice if one wore the same outfit for more than one funeral. I have worn grey and navy for funerals - rarely black. One friend had asked her family to wear her favourite colour - turquoise - at her funeral. I wore the same outfit (lilac) to three weddings in one year as there was likely to be little or no overlap in the guest lists: one in the Highlands, one in Edinburgh and one in New Zealand. I still have that outfit but seem to have run out of weddings.

My friend's son was married last week. She looked absolutely fabulous, like someone at a society wedding.
Her shoes were £4, her hat £2 and her dress and jacket, £10, all from a charity shop. I was fooled into thinking she had spent thousands on her outfit. She has a knack for finding bargains like that.
No-one at the wedding realised and she told no-one apart from myself and another friend..
She is very well off, but gets lots of pleasure in finding designer bargains.