I wanted to be needed too, but it seems I am not. I'm the paternal grandmother and absolutely adore my little granddaughter. I get on pretty well with her mother, who is doing a fantastic job, but I'd so love to be more involved. I kind of feel a bit hurt and as if I'm not trusted or something, which I think is silly and a bit childish of me really, but I can't seem to help feeling like this. I keep having to give myself a stern talking to! I think I might be in danger of annoying my son's partner, who is a lovely person who I really like, if I keep harping on about wanting to see more of the baby and offering to mind her and so on, which is something I want to avoid, but it isn't easy. The baby is now in a day nursery 3 days a week since her Mum went back to work part time, and I do feel a bit hurt that she's there and not with me for some of that time. We don't live far away. I know I can't do anything about this, since it's the parents' decision, but I can't help feeling a bit cast aside, really. I'm trying very hard not to be so stupid, as I would be devastated if I caused any kind of falling out with the baby's mother.