My eldest daughter has four kids of her own, two grown up (22 & 19) and two younger (12 & 3). She is also a single mother who has a tempestuous relationship with her ex ( it's a can't live without you, can't live with you) scenario, at the moment they are apart. I try and help her where I can and still worry her even though she is a 'grown up' as she often reminds me. I do try to not interfere and try not to give any opinions on things unless she brings it up. But yesterday, she really hurt me.
She works part time as a manager of a shop in a local tourist attraction, but says she hates it now. She had just cut her hours so she only had to work four days a week, but her opposite number was on holiday so her days needed covering. Yesterday I had messaged her to see if she was at work or at home. When she eventually replied she said she had been at work. So I had said 'when are you getting a day off then, don't be over working yourself'. I do worry about her not getting proper time off, but I was told 'stop telling me what to do, I am an adult now'. To say I was shocked and a bit hurt at her response is an understatement.
Am I being unreasonable, worrying about my kids and wanting the best for them? Should I just keep away unless she approaches me? I feel a lot of them time, I can't do right for doing wrong!
My mother and mother in law were always happy to see us, but I feel as though nowadays, I have to make an appointment to see my kids.
We are moving to Spain soon and I am beginning to wonder if I will ever see/here from them again unless I am the one doing the running.
Anyone else have similar problems with their offspring?