4allweknow that sounds a lot to cope with
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AIBU to be annoyed by this
(98 Posts)Yesterday our neighbours had a family party in the garden. It started at 12 and went on until 8pm. There was no especially loud music or anything like that but a lot of people talking and laughing (around 30 of them) the entire time. I like my neighbours very much and respect that in this weather people want to be outdoors and should be able to have people over. But it meant that we ended up indoors the entire time because you literally couldn't hear yourself think over the noise, let alone read or hold a conversation. 30 people laughing, chatting and shouting at the same time is quite loud.
I have no objection to people having fun obviously and they were having fun, and it's not like it went on late or anything. But it's not the first such gathering they have had this summer and I assume it won't be the last so am I being unreasonable at being annoyed that we got 9 solid hours of party noise that stopped us being able to enjoy our garden on a sunny weekend? I should maybe add that we have people round regularly but never that many and certainly never for that long. We also try not to make noise in the garden in the evenings in case we disturb their baby.
Oh how I would relish neighbours having a party once a month in this warm weather. I have to put up with a child minder who more or less lets the kids outside and just shouts at them from her kit hen or the sunlounger. This is all against the properties having conditions that do not allow any business to be run from them. Drives me mad, no peace in the garden to sit and read or chat, can't even have a quiet lunch outdoors. Then when the kuds have gone her own child invites her friends round to play. More nouse to about 8 pm. Your party once a month seems like a dream to me. Ignore it, go out, put your own music on.
blimey weekend lunch parties, sounds brilliant.
I would have worn earplugs, read my book and have been impervious!
Even more really surprised! In my experience, weekend lunchtime parties usually involve alcohol. Assuming they're not driving, if someone starts drinking at lunchtime on a hot day, by tea time, they've had a lot to drink.
i think your being a bit harsh on them. its not often that we get weather like this just let it go and be pleased that they are lovely neighbours.
There's nothing worse than people talking and laughing when you haven't been invited.
Having seen Hm999's post, I had another look at the OP and couldn't see any mention of anybody 'getting progressively drunk'.
I thought OP. said it was a “family party “ not an 8 hour drinking orgy ?
Glad we don’t live next to you Hm999 ?
Still really surprised by some of these replies. This is 8 hrs of 30 people getting progressively more drunk, perhaps ten feet from your back door! And if you want to go inside for quiet, you have to shut all the windows! In this weather? Really?
people!!
Some pekple just "tell it like it is" on gransnet. No sugar coating! lol
Terribull oooh that does sound lovely even with the noise. Can we do a swap!
I live in a house which is one of a group that backs on to lovely communal gardens that lead down to the Thames. Summer can be quite a noisy time, children playing out in the gardens, others entertaining some times late into the night, laughter, chat and the tinkling of glasses, nothing too awful. We have a rowing club across the other side of the river who have competitive days when they continuously play the theme from "Hawaii Five 0", the pub next to that often plays "YMCA" at chucking out time. Next to them are gardens with a bandstand which has a brass band that plays music on summer Sunday afternoons..... then there are the geese that can start up pretty early some mornings with their honking. We thought we'd never get used to it when we first moved here, but can honestly say I love it, it's the sound of summer. Summer is all too brief I guess people want to make the most of that when they entertain in the garden, so I'd say cut them some slack they will be back behind doors before you know it.
What are gardens for if not to enjoy the occasional party or visit from friends and family.
Yes, you are being unreasonable, especially if you are retired and can enjoy your garden the rest of the week. Go inside and read yiur book.
I envy you wiggle our inconsiderate neighbours had a party on Friday, it started at half past three in the afternoon and went on until 4:30 the next morning.
I think 8 o'clock in the evening is really good. Yes you are being unreasonable.
I'm sure your nice neighbours don't or couldn't afford to have parties on this scale very often so I think you need to lighten up a bit. For those people who never want to hear their neighbours and enjoy their garden without hearing a sound then they need to choose a suitable property in the middle of no where! Good neighbours can be hard to come by. If the party went on until the early hours then you would something to complain about.
I'm puzzled as to why it is necessary to be given notice of such an event in order to "plan" a day out. Why can't you just go out - either walking, or by bus, train or car? I can understand that someone who has restricted mobility - or is living in a physically challenging and remote area and perhaps has no access to their own or public transport -might need to plan but does that apply to many people?
I’m sure it was terribly annoying at the time - particularly if you didn’t know what time it was going to end. Just a thought, but could you wear noise cancelling earphones, nice background music and read your book?
Your neighbours sound pleasant, they love their family, they finished at 8 pm. I’m sure that many, many thousands of people would love to have them for neighbours rather than the horrors who scream, play endless loud music seemingly 24/7, etc, etc.
Hope you are having some lovely quiet reads in your garden now and that you get invited to the next party! ? ? ?
Everyone would say you are being unreasonable but I too would hate that - 30 people shrieking and laughing for 8-9 hours - I think they should have warned you so that you could have arranged a day out. I would never have any kind of gathering that large in house or garden as it's just too noisy and I can't stand noise - even the noise of traffic annoys me ?
I’ve lived in the same little row of houses for 24 years. We’ve brought up two children and now we gave grandchildren. Three of them have been staying last week. We have made more noise this last week that we have made in the last 10 years. The girls, three, three and four, have ridden their little scooters and blown bubbles and generally run up and down the path outside the seven houses. Now , I don’t have any lawn but I listen to neighbors whining lawnmower and the endless strimming without complaint because when the granweens come it’s my turn. Honestly we all live in glass houses so we shouldn’t throw stones. The sounds of people enjoying themselves is a joy, just remember, you might be the one gaving a party. Live and let live is my philosophy
YES YABU for all the reasons stated by Maw and others
I don't think you can complain if it finished at 8pm. We are surrounded by HMOs (Houses of Multiple Occupancy) so at 8pm student parties haven't even started. Some have gone on all night.
Most students have gone home now . . . no more parties for the time being but the builders/gardeners have moved in. What a racket. Sitting in the shade in the garden last week I could hear very clearly the work that has started on an extension to the HMO two doors away. On each side of it live retired couples like us who will have to endure noise and disturbance for some considerable time. Plus loud garden maintenance in a HMO garden somewhere behind us. And they don't pay Council Tax.
Why didn't you simply put in some earplugs?
I had a BBQ last Sunday, from 1pm to 5pm, with the family, including the 2 grandchildren, in the paddling pool. Lots of squeals and laughter..... but it was just a one-off, and we only see the grandchildren fortnightly. I would expect my neighbours to be understanding about some noise now and again
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