Don’t call me ‘love’

DanniRae

This is an old thread. It started in 2018!

Does it matter? People still want to comment.

I cannot stand………… My dear….

“Bless” is the one I find most patronising.
Paying at the automated checkout recently, I commented (well that was a mistake for a start, only old dears talk to strangers) that since the contactless limit had been raised to £100 and for the last 2 years most of my shopping had been done online, that I had trouble remembering my pin number.
She smiled kindly “Bless” she said. It was all I could do not to run my trolley over her feet. ?

I agree as long as it is meant in a friendly way, don't like being called madam though (not that I ever am!) - it would make me feel old.

Anniebach

Doesn’t trouble me , just people being friendly

I think I'm with you on this.

It's only irritating if it's used as a condescension. But even a polite "madam" can be patronising and scornful. Context is everything.

People trying to be friendly is the least of our worries at the moment.

Mapleleaf

There are certainly more important things to get upset about than if someone calls you love, etc, when it’s just being used in a friendly, non patronising way.

Exactly!

I thought it seemed familiar. I think I said back then that I don't mind being called love or anything similar, as long as it's said nicely. In fact, I quite like it.

I'm from Nottingham, where people call each other "duck". I often say "luv", but it's in a friendly way

This is an old thread. It started in 2018!

I think it’s a shock to the system when if you have been in a responsible job and are used to getting respect, to be suddenly called dear or pet because you are retired and maybe in your 70s.

I always smile when our delivery drivers ( English isn’t their first language) call me ‘ Lady’ .
I must take me crown orf when I get the door........

Feckless, 66 however fit and youthful, to a very young person it is ancient. I know when I was younger I thought anyone over 30 was old.?

Who are these people that get upset over such a minor thing?
I accept I am old now but all my life people have called me darling of love, in shops and public transport, people don't know your name and its being friendly, wouldn't want yo be a Mrs, Ms or Madam. I don't consider it an age thing, I frequently call my grandchildren darling as I have been corrected for using their wrong names and sometimes its the safer option.

My friend a very even tempered lady with a wonderful sense of human nearly turns into the Incredible Hulk if any one says
‘ahh bless you’ to her

I didn’t mind when I was younger now I cringe when in shops they say “Allright lovely?” I really feel 105!

Haha wait until someone calls you poppet. I have two friends both 20 years younger than me one calls me poppet and the other calls me lovely. I’m 67. Fit as a butchers dog. Do workouts they couldn’t do. However rather than say something I just accept it for what it is. There is no point in me protesting even though that term does annoy me.

Why anyone should be upset or irritated by someone saying darling or love is beyond me.
They should get a life, there are far far worse thing happening in this world.
I'm very happy to speak to anyone who is pleasant to me whatever their way of speaking.

Not really bothered as long as it's not offensive. There's an expression in Liverpool 'Alright Lah' which some people use but it's not an expression we ever used.

boodymum67

good job you don't live in Yorkshire!

Indeed !

There are certainly more important things to get upset about than if someone calls you love, etc, when it’s just being used in a friendly, non patronising way.

good job you don't live in Yorkshire!

Colvillefly

Don’t like being called love or darling by young shop assistants at all. I usually say ‘I’m not your love or darling’ and walk off. Think it’s so patronising and rude.

Seriously ?? They’re only trying to be pleasant, May I say unlike your good self.

I don't mind too much being called 'love', but I hate the patronising 'young lady'. 'Darling' feels uncomfortable, I don't even call DH that.

The first time I was addressed as 'Madame' instead of 'Mmselle' in France I was really distressed, old age here we come!

I must admit that I don’t like the term. My DH uses it, in fact he says, ‘you OK lover?’ I hate it and it really irritates me. I have a name, please use it! Years ago when I was about 6 a Scottish business associate of my Dad’s called me Chick - I hated it and replied that I was not a chick! This must be when my hatred of it started!

My daughter hearing my father calling her younger cousin ‘pet’ , muuummmm, I’m grandad’s pet! Me: I think I was grandad’s pet first. My mum ‘I think you’ll find I was the first’