Malicious Gossip :(

I’m not in FB or Twitter or any other social media (other than GN) but I do know there are plenty people who do like a good gossip. They come across as “holier than thou” And will say one thing to your face before stabbing you in the back when they think you aren’t looking.

When my hairdresser moved to another salon I followed him there with an appointment for myself and my, then, young daughter. Only the once!

The staff were rude, gossiping and foul mouthed. I took my poor DD out of there as fast as I could and never went back. I suggest the OP does the same.

I think you’re on the wrong thread rufus
Janeainsworth; Don't I know it! I'd posted a retraction almost straightaway which has already dumped to page p3. Although, I do have lovely locks which my hairdresser (used to call them barbers) looks after every 3 months. Costs me $22 each visit.
But was I in the wrong place? Aren't they all "Unisex" these enlightened days?

This is to Luzdoh I couldn’t get it to comment after your very kind reply. Thank you, as you do end up analysing your own behaviour and if you are to blame. I’ve always said hello to neighbours still do but yesterday I could tell he’s worked magic on one when the neighbour said coldly hello back like I was a child being told off when little. I’ve read a lot on narcissism everything fits. I’m sorry you deal with the same things too. I think he recognised everyone seemed to chat to me and so had altered their opinion of me. I carry on as I am as I aren’t willing to play silly games, life is too short.

Such a sad life some people must lead if they have to denigrate other people, especially when it's none of their business.

Good point codfather - I have a neighbour who is a little on the hippy scale of life choices and her philosophy is wonderful. She once told me that if she feels she is being negative about something or someone (which is pretty rare to my mind) she will try to think 5 good things about them/it and that she feels, usually takes away any negative thoughts. This lady has a lovely sunny nature and is very tolerant and forgiving about most of life's trials and tribulations. Must say it works wonders for her health and looks....I once found out her age and she's a good 15 years older than she looks!

Your friend is a great example of a healthy and happy person HildaW ! Few and far between. Sadly.

By coincidence, I'd been listening to a podcast episode recommending the practice of "Reverse Gossip" just before seeing this thread.

As you'd expect, it was about the benefits of passing on positive statements and compliments, with an unintended consequence being that the person passing on the accolades about a third party was also perceived as sharing the positive attributes.

I think I will google and try and find that podcast Happiyogi. Giving compliments and sharing happy sentiments surely must help make the world a better place.

Bush
GrannyGravy
I left a message to both of you at 18:00 yesterday, saying 'Thank you for your comments ' but now, reading through (21:28 Sat) it's not there.
No idea why it's disappeared but I'm now repeating my thanks to you both. p

luzdoh
Thank you
Yes, she's a hard worker and nice all round (as far as I know...

Bush, to save you searching - the podcast is Happier with Gretchen Rubin and the episode was No.181. I hope that helps!

funny isn't it, you'd never get blokes having these kind of conversations.

You think?

funny isn't it, you'd never get blokes having these kind of conversations.
oldbatty; What "conversations"? They seem more like slanging matches; to me anyway. Could it be that we "live and let live"?
Btw; I'm a gentleman, not a "bloke", so perhaps I'm in the wrong thread, again.

Just thinking about my male relatives visiting the hairdressers /barbers. In and out, bit of grunting,[ off they go. Not bitching about a lady wearing sunglasses and calling social services.

You’ve never had a male hairdressers oldbatty?

Yes?

go somewhere else..or say to her if you cant say anything nice dont say anything at all. or say no-ones perfect even you.

This sort of technique seems to have worked in the past for Gransnetters.
Believe that you are absolutely in the right.
Work out what you want to say, as succinctly as possible.
Start by saying that there is something on your mind and you have discussed it with many friends.
Visualise as many GN members as you need ( 2/10/50/100?) standing by your side.
Deliver your message and graciously accept the applause of your army of supporters.
Congratulate yourself on standing up for a large section of society ( and for yourself).

I have been going to my hairdresser's for over twenty five years. I started going out of convenience, as it was next door to my school.
I enjoy going, as there's is always lots of chat. They are a kindly bunch, always showing concern for elderly clients and those who are ill. When I was very ill before I retired a few years ago, they offered to come to my home and do my hair, as I couldn't get out.
No malicious gossip there.

The only unkind and usually untrue gossip I have ever heard is not from my Hairdressers, but my local church.

Marydoll. How lovely for you. I think their are some good natured salons/stylists out there. It’s finding them that is the difficult part.

Billybob4491 I have experienced that too. I don’t attend church myself but a group of women I know who do are proper tittle tattlers. Not in a caring kind sense either.

I’m beginning to think the malicious gossip types have something missing from their lives and from their souls.

PP posted a quote about great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events and small minds discuss people. Or words to that effect.

There not their.

Thank you Happiyogi.

Thank you to everyone who’s posted. Sorry if I’ve missed anyone. I’m on my phone and I struggle to remember who put what when scrolling.