If Ziggy really does not know what the problem is, has asked the daughter and she won’t say then I DO think she is being cruel and I would not regard getting a card without any love as ‘keeping the door open’ or anything to be grateful for unless she has some form of autism, asperger or social adjustment problem, I would regard it as a slap in the face.
If My daughter communicated the reason why she is cross with me, I would immediately apologise even if I felt no responsibility in the matter. I would be truly sorry that I had inadvertently upset her as I would not do that on purpose. Following that I would throw the ball into her court keep my distance until she was ready to have a normal and healthy relationship with me.
My experience is that constant grovelling for attention and love is usually only met with contempt by people who "punish" with silence or withdrawel of lovey. I was the victim of such behaviour when I was a child. Instead I prefer a good old row, which is generally a much healthier release of emotions, but frowned upon and looked down on in this country.
So far in my life, I have always found that after an argument the air cleared so much that I liked the person better than ever before and the relationship improved dramatically. Silence kills relationships. We all know that you don't need to worry about the couple that argues but about the one that doesn't.
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