Men at the sales

Grumppa:

"This set me wondering what equivalent light-hearted banter it would be permissible for a man on Gransnet to apply to a woman."

Shrewishness comes and goes and sometimes dwells with the man

permissible for a man on Gransnet to apply to a woman
Grumppa; Apart from "light-hearted banter", being something of a tautology, why would we need permission to say something nice about the ladies? I'm sure they'd give a "Like!"
They might even tap you on your head, ruffle your hair (if you have any), say "there, there" and even give you a kiss if you can look sheepish enough! Half your luck! Much nicer than shouting "Charge" and committing Hari-Kari.

It was Saggi Sat 29-Dec-18 18:15:10

Someone said it, because I remember thinking "How rude!"

I don't recall saying that grumppa but of course I bow to your superior memory.
I think you would fit into our French life style very well, over here man is still king.

saggi and sodapop, I have been considering your helpful suggestion that I should "grow a pair". It had not occurred to me before that a couple's shopping habits might be some kind of virility indicator, or on a different interpretation rhat you were referring to horns and I should encourage Mrs. Grumppa to take a lover and make me a cuckold (I obviously spend too much time dipping into 16rh and 17th century drama).

This set me wondering what equivalent light-hearted banter it would be permissible for a man on Gransnet to apply to a woman.

Suggestions welcome. I promise not to use them!

Don’t see why it is assumed the man is trailing.

Why can’t the couple be assumed to be out shopping/having chat and coffee together just like a group of ladies?

Grannyticktock: My sister's husband died in June and she feels as you do, missing him all the time, but particularly when she returns from shopping. She opens the front door and calls 'Hello, I'm home!'

I think my OH is posting on here under the alias of Prestbury. Better be careful what I say.

Oh go back to your shed Prestbury!!

Only joking

Speaking as a man who is too independent, serious and practical to shop my routine would be to take my wife shopping, dropping her off wherever she desires with a promise to collect her on demand.

I then proceed to the nearest Matalan, 5 minutes later pay for all my purchases which will see me through for 12 months then off to such premises that allow me to view various contraptions that allow me to do manly, important and technical things at my leisure.

His wife buys them!

So how does the man who’s too independent, serious and practical to shop get any clothes then?

I never took to the New Man image and I still prefer the sort of man who has more serious or more practical interests than clothes shopping. I cannot imagine Mr Darcy helping to choose knickers.

Years ago when sewing pattern catalogues were the norm, as I was browsing one, there was a man looking through one with his wife telling her (on every page) she would look amazing, wonderful . He then turned to me and started to tell me how they would suit me. Yuk ! Thank goodness my DH stays at home on my shopping trips.

But a man can accompany his wife on a buying expedition without being judged to have "trailed round after her" He is just as likely to benefit from using what she has bought, after all.

I have not a husband now, however I do still like a man who has more sense of independence than to trail around after his spouse all the time.

When my late DH was alive he would always drive me to the shops as I am a non driver. He would sit in a cafe/pub with coffee/newspaper while I shopped. If I got something heavy, I would bring it to him to save carrying it around the next shop. It worked very well and it's another thing I miss about being married - I hate going on the bus.

If you can't stand the heat etc.

At the time there were some puritan posters who felt as strongly about gentle banter as they did about verbal harassment. The poster in question had already said something previously that they didn't like.

Poor man. Such a shame he felt it better to leave the forum than be castigated in that way.

I don't like shopping very much, DH likes it even less.

Sometimes I 'lose' him in Waterstones or, if there is a DIY place anywhere near, leave him there; sometimes he will buy a couple of papers and go and sit in the car and read them!

We have a 'man-creche' in a pub a few miles away - unfortunately, it is in the middle of a village with only a tiny village shop.

I have been pondering the ghastly word misandry, and it occurred to me that it is an anagram of randyism


One of our male posters wrote that while Mrs X was shopping he preferred to sit outside a cafe with a cup of coffee and a cake and watch the girls go by. Inevitably someone reported him for being sexist and abusive, so he was reprimanded and suspended. He preferred to leave the forum completely.
Oh dear, is that what happened to him?
Does that mean I am not allowed to drool post about Rufus Sewell? After all, sauce for the goose and gander etc.

No names no pack drill, Rufus2.

My DH is a better sales shopper than me. We go our own ways in each store and meet up at an allotted time. He’ll find all sorts of quality stuff that fits, half price. Then he’ll be off for a coffee while I carry on rooting. I stagger in later with bags full of presents for other people, some discounted M & S curries and next year’s crackers. Occasionally a jumper I don’t really like that much, that’ll be going back the next week.

by other males, presumably those of a sensitive disposition
Grumppa; Well, there aren't many males around to do any flinging and I'm not of a sensitive disposition, so who are dobbing in?