....too be a bit annoyed?

I m sorry that this has upset you so much and can see how it would , but as a total stranger I ll play devils advocate and say I guess she’s looking out for her Dad he must have said that he wanted to live there to her or why else would she say that, surely you dont really feel she made it up to be vindictive as she only repeated what you already knew but has been buried under a warm blanket. You say you have always got on well with her and she’s a lovely girl so it doesn’t sound as if she is normally an ‘ interferer’

I suppose if you’re not married and don’t live together and have different outlooks about later life one of you is going to have to make a big sacrifice either him to not follow his dream sand stay with you, or you to not follow your dream and go with him or find a compromise you can both live with
I really don’t think you can blame the daughter he must have been discussing it with her for her to know his dreams I think you are quite right that you have to sit down and have a solid discussion with him and decide which one of you is going to make the ultimate sacrifice and how you can manage the situation
What a worry and what a shame I sincerely hope it works out for you both

What a shame, Flaxseed. It’s not your DP’s DD’s place to stick her oar in like this and I can well understand that you’ve been upset by it. Just sit down and have a heart to heart with your DP this weekend and find out what he really wants to do. You sound like a well-matched couple and I’m sure you’ll work things out.

Oh, that must hurt then, to think she may have been harbouring these feelings.
Plus its annoying that she felt it her place to point out all these 'obstacles',

missadventure
It has only been since her mums break up as far as I know.

She’s normally so quiet and lovely

harrigran she could still have a holiday abroad if he had a holiday home.

She's had plenty to say, then, obviously.
Is this all just in their recent chat, do you think?
Anything to do with her mums break up with her partner?

holdingontometeeth
They could also get a whole lot worse .

If he’s influenced by her and we split up it would break my heart!

It took a long time to find him!

Thanks for understanding ladies.

The thing is - she is intending to work abroad - nowhere near the country DP would want to live
She has lots of plans which certainly don’t include DP, which leads me to believe than her recent comments are to make him question our future.
One of her other ‘concerns’ is that I have a DGS.
Which apparently makes us too different.

I would look on the bright side of life. Things can only get better.

I can't help but think that DP's DD may have an agenda as in her Dad having a home abroad that would be ideal for her to be able to go for holidays.

I would be upset and angry, too, on so many levels.

Evening Flax - no you're not too sensitive at all! That would really get to me. Its for you two to sort out or he can decide and be truthful about it, painful as that might be, but its not for his DD to be persuading or helping him, particularly rude of her to bring it up like that.

I am assuming he is someone who can normally discuss things rationally in which case I'd come to the same conclusion - that the DD doesn't like you and is trying to make out you are somehow standing in his way.