Reading other people’s greetings cards

I totally agree if on display they can be read, Do not display personal cards, letters anything in fact you do not want read. Most people will read it when you are not looking even if they do not actually pick it up.

Ooh Grammaretto I didn't know you moved in such exalted circles - respect.

Thanks to everyone who has responded to my thread. Interesting comments from all, however, I’m not sure about the idea of not displaying my own cards in case someone reads them. I thought everyone put their cards on the mantlepiece! In any case, the exuberant friend who read my cards would surely have asked where my cards were. ?
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If I'm round at a friend's house and they have cards on display, I usually say how lovely the cards look and then ask if they mind me reading inside them. No-one has ever said no! They have always been happy to have someone show an interest in them. I always let people look at mine too, I don't see a problem at all. Like others have said, if there's one you really don't want anyone to read, remove it before someone comes round. Sorted

I wouldnt read them because I would find them boring but
A. Some people are more soppy than me and
B. The fact that they are likely to be boring and not contain any juicy secrets means its not intrusive

I find that if personal notes are included they tend to be in letters within the cards which you remove before displaying the card

I wouldn't read them, as I'd feel it was an intrusion. Apart from at my sisters, she doesn't mind. If people wanted to read mine, it wouldn't bother me.

I would not read cards of folk I did not know well but do look at cards sent to my DDs and they look at mine. we don't mind!

What are cards for if not for reading!
I might say oh look what a lot of beautiful cards who are they from? Then I would expect DD or friend to say have a look .but like KatyK I may not do that in future.
It's very showoffy to have invitations on the mantlepiece. Queen's garden party or At home at Lord and Lady so and so.
Postcards are for everyone. Letters are private. Surely?

It depends who it is but generally I think it's rude .I have a friend who would do exactly the same,and has.She has a good heart but can be very bossy.Our friendship nearly ended years ago when sitting at my kitchen table she asked if DH were free on a certain date and before saying what for -it was an invitation to dinner -unhooked the calendar on the wall,flipped over the page to the relevant week and checked what was on it and said 'oh good you're free' before I could even open my mouth.She then picked up a pen and was about to write it in until I ticked her off and pointed out it was my calendar,and I would need to check with first.

Greeting cards all have the same, similar 'sugary' messages of endearment... how incriminating can that be? Putting them on display can also be perceived as an invitation for perusal.

Having said that, I personally wouldn't disturb anyone's greeting cards or read the messages inside, but that's just me.

Why display them if you do not want people to look at them - keep them in your bedroom so only you can see them!

Think it's very impolite to say the least!

To me it’s exactly as rude as reading a letter lying around

Its nothing like that.
A letter left out is not "on display" it just hasn't been put away yet

I would ask before reading.

If a greeting card had a very personal/private message I wouldnt put it on display in the sitting room. I sometimes display more special/personal cards in my bedroom

Cards on display are for the enjoyment of the person they have been sent to not for any visitor to pick up and read.

To me it’s exactly as rude as reading a letter lying around. The card is for the recipient to read not for anyone else unless invited to read.

It’s incredibly rude in my opinion

No it's not acceptable and I don't even read other family members' cards when visiting.

Surely, there is a clear distinction between letters and cards or postcards?

I would never read a letter addressed to anyone else, if it was left lying around, or their bank statement, but a postcard that the entire sorting office has already read, or a Christmas of birthday card is a completely different matter.

I would assume cards on display where meant to be read, although I would ask the recipient's permission before reading them.

I wouldn't be offended if anyone read mine without asking though.

I can’t see your problem. Just be proud that people say nice things about you.

It wouldn’t bother me in the slightest.

I would find it very rude of anyone other than close family to pick up my cards and read them. Even if they are on display, they are my cards, in my home and displayed for my enjoyment, not for everyone to read. Sorry, but I find this unacceptable and wouldn't dream of doing it in someone else's home.

Your post made me laugh op because my dad does this and I always think it’s very rude and drives me silently mad.

I think it’s as rude as reading someone’s letters who just appear to b around.

I would say she meant no harm just nosey.probably did it without thinking.she will think what a lovely family you have.vicky meldrew

Would never do it, I admire cards from a distance but wouldn't dream of reading them. Personal messages are exactly that, personal. Any cards with special messages I receive are kept in my bedroom and not on general display.