Warning - long
I wrote a thread on here last week, which seems totally irrelevant now - but ended with me saying my DD needed me.
So here goes......
DD1 is vibrant, clever, successful but has always, I suppose, been a bit of a stresshead.
Last year she planned an amazing wedding and landed herself a stressful, well paid job in the city.
Late last year she admitted she had had counselling as she was struggling with stress. She started mediatation classes, started Mindfullness classes, downloaded apps etc etc.
The decline in mental health has been gradual and we have all missed the signs
Last Friday, I got a couple of messages from her which should have raised alarm bells but I just put it down to work stress.
Late that night (whilst I was on a night shift) I got a call from SonIL to say DD was acting very out of character and he was very worried.
To cut a long story short - my beautiful DD disappeared that night. She was replaced with a shadow of her former self. A vulnerable, fragile, shell of a woman.
Luckily, through work she has private health cover and we were able to get her an appt via her GP to a psychiatrist after 4 days. He diagnosed her as suffering from ‘mania’ and wanted to admit her straight away.
To be separated from her DH would have finished her off, so together we have looked after her in their home.
She was put on anti psychotic meds immediately. Mon-weds were horrendous. I am numb. I haven’t cried because I just can’t. My body is in shock.
On Tuesday night we were on the verge of a 999 call but we knew she’d be sectioned so we battled on.
Yesterday there was a slight improvement (after psych advice to up meds)
Today was 2nd psych appt where he saw slight improvement. He has upped the meds again and offered her a bed should she want it or if we can’t cope with her.
We DO NOT want her to go in if we can avoid it.
I feel like I am in a living nightmare. We are a normal, hardworking, loving family. This happens to other people - not us!
Over this last (horrendous) week the major trigger for her has been anything to do with work and a certain person she worked with. This awful woman she worked with has completely messed with her brain and has robbed me of my daughter.
How will we ever recover from this? I have dealt with some s**t in my life but this is by far the worse thing ever. DD tried so hard to cope but she’s broken
Silent treatment - son
Caught in the act - neighbours
How to say it - 'no'