.... to wonder what the hell is happening

I hope you all get a good nights sleep, it really is very early days and I suspect there will be many ups and downs to come. Please accept all the specialist help you can get and if at any point she needs hospital care it can be a great help, sometimes people do find it easier to accept help away from their family for a short while and can be safer.

I appreciate every single post and would love to respond to them all but can’t keep up!

I'm sure no-one expects you to! Take care of yourself & enjoy your "home shower" x

Flaxseed you are clearly an amazing and supportive mother. Stay strong.

I just want to wish you all well. Cannot begin to imagine. how anyone copes. From what you have shared here it shows how people can end up in great difficult losing everything, how easy it is for someone without the communication and support you all give her and each other.. Not written very well as words are hard to express how i feel reading your post and fail me reading how terrifying it must be.

Thank you for posting flaxseeed

If your daughter had a physical problem would you keep her out of hospital.

The medical team need to be able to assess her over time they can’t do it properly in an outpatient appt or a home visit.

I know you have said there is improvement and that’s great but if there is deterioration then please don’t wait to encourage her to admit herself even for a few days.

Please dont take her "improvement" at face value .My neighbours daughter had severe PND though the family kept telling me she was doing fine and "getting there".She jumped to her death from a bridge .I'm not suggesting your daughter will do the same just that she might be hiding how she really feels to give you some peace of mind .Please ,if the offer of a bed is there ,take it and give her a good chance of recovery.I wish you and her all the best in her long road to good health.

paddyann That’s so very, very sad.

Update - DD slept very well. She was anxious this morning as her DH is working. But she relaxed by watching me clean ! I’ve done a lot of it this last week although nothing really needs doing! Just a well I find it quite therapeutic!

She has meditated, written some stuff down (drawing diagrams is helping her try to make sense of this), is fed and watered and enjoying her fav soap.
She has stopped linking everything on tv back to something.
I.e if there is reference to homosexuality, pregnancy etc she felt the need to reassure us that she is not either of those.

Thanks for all messages.

To whoever mentioned The Priory, that’s where we have been seeing the Psychiatrist

Hope you all get a settled night Flaxseed

If she can slowly and steadily improve at home all well and good.

Good to know you have professional support Flaxseed and that as a family, you're doing all you can. Do take time for yourself to rest and restore.

flaxseed, I have manic depression. Every day I fight to be here and its exhausting..but here I am...things WILL get better and she will come out of this fog...some days it will come back and some days it will be thick fog but with the love of her family they will become less and less...is anything being said/done about the person who triggered this? Much Love to you all x

nanny2507
I am sorry you struggle too. Thanks for sharing that with me. Talking about work is the thing that seems to trigger her anxiety.

I am home tonight after feeling emotionally drained.
I showered and had a small glass of wine, then my sister came round.
I finally cried, then gave her a blow by blow account of possibly the most horrific week of my life.
I did feel better after
She’s a wonderful person.
I had a msg from DD via her DH phone (she’s avoiding hers for now) saying they had a peaceful evening, meds taken and they are off to bed soon. I do miss being with them but I’m glad they had a nice evening

Flaxseed, I’m so very sorry to hear of your daughter’s illness. My daughter also has mental health problems, and earlier this year has had a complete breakdown. She is recovering but only today we have had a further difficulty with her.
It is so difficult for the family, and in particular for the parents, more so if young children are involved. Our daughter has a diagnosis from the psychiatrist but to be perfectly honest, it is a diagnosis that we dispute. I believe she has a Personality Disorder, in fact I’m convinced, but of course I’m not a doctor.
Anyway, I’m just offering sympathy because I know how difficult and awful it is. There are many Gransnetters who have or are living through this kind of illness. If it helps, you are not alone.

Dear Flaxseed, I have no experience with MH, so can't offer anything but my sympathy for your daughter, you and your whole family. I hope that she makes a full recovery.
You are in my thoughts. ??

Flaxseed

I'm still here.

You can get better.

That's what I wish people had told me. I wish I had had that to hang on to: that even when you are really in the worst of it, you can get better. You have to believe in that. You have to believe that although it will take time, maybe much longer than you want, and although maybe everything will not be the same as it once was, you can get better.

There will be a time again to feel strong. But this is a time to heal. And that's okay. Take that time. Don't hurry yourself, or push yourself too soon. Let yourself heal.

You can get better.

You can be well again.

Flaxseed I am so very sorry for all of you.
I don’t want to sound glib, but it will get better, although
it will take time for all of you.
We have experience of bipolar disorder in our family and it did involve a hospital admission. However, there were no young children involved.
Our Health Authority has s psychiatric intensive care scheme where the nurses visit everyday, which was very helpful, and a life line. We also trusted our pschchiatrist.
Just to add life does change and this involved a job change, and there has been some loss of confidence.
Good health has been regained, with on-going medication.
Bear in mind I am talking about a definite diagnosis of BPD.
Praying that you can all hang on in there.

Still thinking of you and your DD flaxseed x

Thanks again for all your messages. They all help, be they supportive ‘thinking of you’ to stories of recovery.
I’m just so sorry that this illness robs so many people of a ‘normal’ life.

DD is gradually improving.
100% lucid for a few days now, the main issue at the moment is terrible anxiety. But even that is improving - albeit very slowly.
She tires easily but is sleeping well.
We had the 3rd Psychiatric appt yesterday which hightened her anxiety - but he was pleased with her progress and happy to continue to see her twice weekly. We all felt good coming out of there.
She has done some normal stuff today - like sorting online bills, online shopping etc.
This time last week we were wondering if she would ever function normally again.
Baby steps
to all you wonderful people

Great to hear your DD is improving. Hopefully you can now all relax a bit and come to terms with the new reality. I am sure there will be some positives to emerge eventually.

Flaxseed Glad to hear your daughter is improving and you are all feeling better. As you say baby steps. Takes time but it will get better

Good news, hope it continues