Making extra work

My post was question to Grandad1943 before his last post was deleted.

Nobody called anybody a “pompous prick” Eloethan (a “knob” certainly) Grandad however found it acceptable to accuse individuals of lying, of hating men, of ridiculing their husbands, of breaching the Equalities Act, of somehow demeaning the Grenfell tower disaster, of prejudice, of being out of touch with reality,and to accuse the site in general of misandry.
Some of these comments were deleted as malicious and personal attacks so you may have missed them.
So “ganging up” is not exactly how I would describe it when the flak was flying in all directions. Are members not allowed to defend themselves?

the last three pages of this thread

Muffin.....I can relate!

I like to have everything 'tip top' when we invite overnight guests, especially the guest bathroom. It's seldom used, but I still freshen it up when we're expecting guests! As if on cue, H will immediately head over there with magazine in hand. I'm convinced that even in humans, the male of the species has the same compulsive need to 'mark' his territory!

Since this thread has eleven pages, I glossed over some of the earlier posts and then I responded .....For the record, my post relates solely to the OP. Hand to God, I had not even read the last two or three pages until after I posted.

interesting comment there willa45, given you hadn't read the last two or three pages x

I have kept out of it for the last few pages! I have to go out soon, so my only comment is that some people can be pompous pricks without any proof that they possess a prick, but if called one they latch onto the last part and object to being abused for their masculinity. No, for being a pompous prick. That is abuse for a personality characteristic, not for being male.

Nice linguistic analysis, Elegran, but I would expect nothing less from you.

We do tend to hear what we want to hear in -arguments- debates

become reconciled to talking to women and even appears to enjoy the experience
Elegran; You're so gracious! I don't know where to begin. As a mere male I was expecting to find my entrails smeared all over this thread, but what's going on? I had to roll the credits to page 3 before my name popped up! I must have done something right, for a change.
You've played around with words here. I have never been "un-reconciled". After I was admitted the shortage of men was quickly apparent, so having been offered the opportunity of conversations with men I simply asked where were they. In the Shed I was told. Fake news! There was only one gentleman who has since folded his tent after lectures from you about Lord Reith and the BBC. Remember? One thing you have got right is my love of ladies. Our local Council run free monthly coach day trips for us "Oldies" to get us away from the TV and for company. Social inclusion it's called! The bus holds 15 and I'm the only "bloke" with a harem of 14 lovely ladies and never a nasty word between us. Our driver Annie is a lovely person and never engages in any road- rage; something which some ladies I know would jump at. As for banter! Well some members are so up themselves it would test the patience of a saint!
Thanks for your patience, but I felt some clarification was necessary.

Oi! You're supposed to read the blue bits.

Even allowing for the time difference Rufus what part of your most recent post follows the reminder from GNHQ to stick to the point?

There is a strong instinct on my part to want to wrap recently tidied or cleaned areas in clingfilm when visitors are due. Hattie is not allowed on her favourite sofa, spare bedroom doors are closed once beds are made up and fresh towels in place and fortunately (or otherwise ) there is no one other than myself to render the bathrooms and cloakroom less than pristine.

Phew!

Obviously I missed quite a lot because we were out last night - mixed company, lots of chat and a bit of good-humoured banter between the men and the women and some fond reminiscences of a dear departed male friend who had a great SOH but had many eccentric traits.

Let's not kid ourselves that Gransnet was all sweetness and light until Grandad came along. It is mostly tolerant and kind but not always
Perhaps not, Eloe but there does appear to be some 'stalking' (for want of a better word) of posters on threads who disagree with Grandad even mildly - very unnerving and very unpleasant.

And, in fact, Grandad did, as far as I remember, threaten to report GN itself to the Equalities Commission because of its name and is often threatening posters with 'action' outside of Gransnet.

Sorry, my post was off piste!
But, as DH says, I like to have The Last Word.
Actually, he does.

Which usually means going to use the loo in the bathroom which is pristine and ready for visitors - just to give it a 'flush through'.

wrap recently tidied or cleaned areas in clingfilm
Maw; have you got a crush on me? You seem to be stalking me on every thread I visit. I'm only too happy to return to the original (boring) topic, if I can remember what it was trying to achieve, get away from all this mud-slinging and give Grandad a break, although it seems he doesn't need one.
I suppose we are all entitled to our idiosyncracies. Mine is nurturing a family of 4 maggies. They call daily and leave their calling cards all over the backs of patio chairs which I'd find very difficult to wrap in clingfilm, so seeing as how I feed them I guess I'm guilty of making extra work for myself.
Happy Now?
OoRoo

Whenever we have guests staying over, I have the same problem. Trying to remember whether or not I changed the bed when the last lot left.

Maw; have you got a crush on me?

Hardly. Does responding to any Gnetter have to be construed as such? ?

No, the original,topic (which you can check from the Original Post duh!) was about one’s efforts tidying up or cleaning for visitors being “sabotaged”
Read the green bit.

My therapist told me putting grievances into poems might help with my ranting and anyway it's Friday and when I was at work that was POETS Day, so with that in mind!

Misandry is truly a terrible crime
It's prevalent on GN, well some of the time
A site so contentious, just look at the name
It's not inclusive of men, well ain't that a shame
Women come on here to make nasty assertions
That the men in their life are useless persons
Then one day an extraordinary man appeared
To take them to task it was worse than they feared
He told them their behaviour was utterly vile
Their frequent ranting laced with poisonous bile
|He mansplaianed succinctly and told them behave!
Belittling men is terribly grave
Men and women should pull together
Cos men like him were at the end of their tether
So much so, he's monitoring this site
Along with MN to put them both right
"You wanted equality" he was prone to utter
"That means helping us men clear the gutter"
His wife he tells us willingly lends a hand
Ain't that just super, and what God planned
Although some of us wonder if she wobbles his ladder
Which wouldn't be good if he's got a weak bladder
Isn't it wonderful men tell us this stuff
Explained so clearly we can't get enough
Can't get enough of such a point of view
That it's not only women that clean the loo
So remember that women when you feel inclined to post
An inept man in the kitchen will only burn the toast
They won't strip the beds they leave a mess
It may well be a trial but best not to confess
Accusation like that will make them quite mad
They'll just respond with "You're terribly bad!"
"All of that and you don't want us to discuss
Your varicose veins, menopause and hot flush"
So to reach a conclusion we need men on this site
They're there for a reason, to fight the good fight
To put an end to misandry and subliminal exclusion
Their valuable input needs welcome inclusion

I get the feeling that the men in our lives who (inadvertantly!) cause us extra work and annoyance are dearly loved.

We can let off steam in a forum which tends to be dominated by women.

Years ago we'd have chatted over the garden fence with our neighbours, sighing and bemoaning our lot. Now we do it in our computers.

Many of us share frustrations. I don't think men are being ridiculed, they are being moaned about. I am sure men do the same thing about the women in their lives at the pub or at the golf club, factory, office etc, or any outlet where men get together.

OH can annoy me intensely by his lack of awareness, at times, and it tends to be about domestic chores or because we do things differently or have different priorities.

This started as a light hearted discussion. My man is far from useless, far from incompetent and far from saintly. All our aired grievances are anonymous and some of us ( not all sadly) have gems in our lives who pull their weight. Or try to.

What a boring forum this would be if all we did was extol the virtues of our partners. Praise where praise is due, but we like to get down to the nitty-gritty too and air our exasperation at times. If that is sexist than perhaps we need to accept that men and women can and often do approach life differently.

I am glad I shan't be around when society has evolved into completely gender free automatons capable of all tasks who are not allowed to see hear or speak out about life and it's hardships for fear of offending someone.

Green?! Why is it blue on my desktop?

Terribull

Green for the OP on mine, blue for the GNHQ “reminders”
And pretty pink for my own - OMG is that sexist? ?