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Bridgeit Mon 25-Feb-19 10:13:41

The trend seems to be to have hairless ladies bits, och
No easy way to achieve this except for when we become Gnetters, when they seem to disappear at a rate of knots😄
On a serious note I hear a lot of young woman saying their ‘man’ likes it, which I find a bit troubling, ok if the ladies do it for their own reasons , but is their a unsavoury aspect to this particular fashion?

B9exchange Wed 27-Feb-19 22:24:49

At a conference in Amsterdam I was flicking through the TV channels and came across one of 'those' programmes. Couldn't believe it they were all completely hairless absolutely everywhere below the neck. And size wise so well endowed as to be positively deformed!

Grammaretto Wed 27-Feb-19 23:49:21

Who has time to shave? Unattractive whiskers maybe, but anywhere else?

I also can remember getting shaved during labour which along with an enema, was one of the nastier experiences of my life. I felt punished.
The next baby, 2 years later, customs had miraculously changed so I had neither.

NotSpaghetti Thu 28-Feb-19 10:09:00

Laura Dodsworth has been taking photos of vulvas if anyone's interested. Lots if articles about it:
www.theguardian.com/tv-and-radio/2019/feb/19/100-vaginas-review-an-extraordinary-and-empowering-spread-of-the-legs-laura-dodsworth
Previously she did the same thing but about breasts.

jenni123 Thu 28-Feb-19 10:13:02

Not always due to porn, I lived in Egypt for 13 years and there it is expected that a woman shaves, they consider it 'dirty' to have pubic hair. No I do not know why but it is certainly not due to porn.

lizzypopbottle Thu 28-Feb-19 10:35:42

I read recently about a man who watched so much porn that he couldn't 'get going' without it and that affected his relationship with his partner, who, I assume, didn't resemble the ladies in the porn videos. The cure, recommended by the GP, was to lay off watching it, not for their partner to start shaving. It worked.

MissAdventure Thu 28-Feb-19 10:40:29

I think its certainly down to unrealistic expectations.

A while back I watched 'Embarrassing Bodies', where they showed a group of teen boys, and then girls, pictures of normal bodies.
The boys (having all said they liked large breasts) were shocked at what normal large breasts look like, beneath push-up bras and clothing, and the girls had little idea of 'normal' either.

123coco Thu 28-Feb-19 10:52:56

I’ve just started using my lady shaver down there and am thinking why have I waited so long! Not for anyone else. ,just me. Feel it more hygiene now .

Annaram1 Thu 28-Feb-19 11:09:46

Haven't any of you watched "Naked Attraction "? All the women and many of the men have hairless bits, or even heart shaped bits of hair. Some of the men admit to shaving their chests and underarms. I do not like men to have a completely naked chest, but neither do I like them very hairy. In between is OK. I am shocked at the participants though, Some of the girls are under 20 and freely admit to having had sex a lot of times. I didn't even know what sex was until I was about 20. How times change.

Aepgirl Thu 28-Feb-19 11:10:02

So glad this has been brought up. It has bothered me for some time. Now I shall just continue to trim as necessary when wearing a swimsuit. Certainly no porn for me!

Theoddbird Thu 28-Feb-19 11:17:14

I saw an article on a news program last year about the return of hairiness including armpits....

Milly Thu 28-Feb-19 11:53:10

Yes Dragon fly I was thinking that too ,!! But now I understand why one of the snippets on Gogglebox showed women shaved down there. I could hardly believe such things were allowed on TV but apparently there is a program where people choose their partner by looking at " down there " !!!!!!

HootyMcOwlface Thu 28-Feb-19 12:02:11

Oh Rufus you do make me laugh! 😂

GabriellaG54 Thu 28-Feb-19 12:06:12

In my online dating days a few years ago on a paid site, men would often make a few cursory remarks about this and that before asking what I looked for in a man.
It was all documented in my profile but nonetheless it was a precursor to them telling me the kind of woman they wanted to meet.
Not a million hours later I would be asked if I had any private photos and did I have a Brazilian or Hollywood wax. Did I wear heels and suspenders...blah blah.
No matter how nice they, at first, seemed online, it often descended into expecting sex on a first date.
Funny, how men 'demand that of women but women don't expect more than that a man is 'tidy'.
I sometimes suggested that they treat themselves to a BS&C before leaning on women to revert to looking like juveniles.
Men often forget to look in the mirror when they place unreasonable expectations on women as far as clothes, boobs, bums and waxing go.

Annaram1 Thu 28-Feb-19 12:06:54

Milly, I think you mean Naked Attraction. The participants choose a date from the naked people they have seen. I don't think the choice is permanent, it is just a meal or drink out.

GabriellaG54 Thu 28-Feb-19 12:16:15

There are definitely no more boundaries, no more modesty, no outer reaches which haven't been breached.
We have surely gone as far down the path of depravity as it is possible to go.

b1zzle Thu 28-Feb-19 12:39:57

As agnurse said, all hair's there for a reason!

Urmstongran Thu 28-Feb-19 12:56:19

Sorry to bedim GG54ut whacks a BS&C
I thought ‘Bath, shower & ... then couldn’t think of a ‘C’’
Then thought of a shave
Or a bacon sandwich and a coffee. 🤣

Beau Thu 28-Feb-19 13:38:58

'Back sac and crack' I believe 😂
(A man shaving his bits).

RosieLeah Thu 28-Feb-19 13:56:16

Oh Gabriella, you are so right. I do wonder how this has all come about. Is it because of the 'Neo-liberalism'...where it seems, there are no boundaries to decency, or the lack thereof. I was a virgin when I married and have only ever had sex with my husband. This was the norm when I was young, but now I'm made to feel as though there is something abnormal about me. These days, the emphasis is on sex first, not emotion. It doesn't seem to matter how you feel about someone so long as they satisfy you sexually. Have people really become so shallow and superficial?

sluttygran Thu 28-Feb-19 13:57:30

I dislike totally shaven ‘bits’, so uncomfortable!
My only efforts in that area have been a good trim with a scissors to avoid tuftiness when wearing a swimsuit!

theretheredear Thu 28-Feb-19 14:12:38

Jennil23, cultural / religious/ misogynist, reasons maybe in Egypt?
Definitely a porn influence in western society.. Well documented & worrying for our daughters & granddaughters..

alchemilla Thu 28-Feb-19 14:30:37

Farmor they used to shave women's pubic area for giving birth, thankfully before my time. Why, I don't know since as PPs have pointed out, shaving itself could produce nicks and infection and just add to female discomfort when growing out. I'm with everyone who says you don't do it if demanded, only if you prefer it. But it's not cheap. Interestingly there was a famous Victorian thinker and art critic - Ruskin - who was apparently unable to have sex with his wife because he thought women were all hairless from his knowledge of classical statues.

grandtanteJE65 Thu 28-Feb-19 15:46:24

Most Muslims both men and women shave both their pubic hair and the hair under their arms, as this is considered cleaner in Islam.

Surely, shaving of women who were giving birth was meant to make it more hygienic if stiches were needed after childbirth?

Iam64 Thu 28-Feb-19 15:49:21

Surely indeed grandtante but evidence doesn’t support that belief

mumofmadboys Thu 28-Feb-19 16:12:09

I found while working that many Asian girls shave daily.