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Easter presents

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Singlegrannie Sun 03-Mar-19 13:01:11

Do they transmitters but presents at Easter ? In my family we o my bought Easter Eggs for children, but my daughter has married a man whose family treats it as another Christmas, and I have been included in the receiving and consequently the giving.

Eloethan Sun 03-Mar-19 16:17:11

We usually buy a small egg because they get eggs from other members of the family.

I certainly wouldn't buy gifts or eggs for adults. I think it's silly. I would just say it's not my custom to buy expensive presents at Easter.

We don't buy gifts for adults at Christmas either but, as a concession to my son's partner, we do a Secret Santa.

GinJeannie Sun 03-Mar-19 16:23:38

My teenage GDs now get a medium size egg and a £10 gift card for Costa, Starbuck, or similar. Nuff said!

52bright Sun 03-Mar-19 16:33:47

Easter eggs all round here including my mother who will be 88 by Easter time this year.

In addition something to wear for the two grandchildren. This year the 14 year old is in mansize clothing!

leyla Sun 03-Mar-19 16:43:14

I would just give flowers or a nice plant - could be decorated with a pretty pastel/Easter ribbon.

Singlegrannie Sun 03-Mar-19 16:49:28

Leyla, I would be happy to give flowers but I don't live near them and won't be seeing them before or at Easter. I have to send by post or pa s on bus my f2f and si

B9exchange Sun 03-Mar-19 16:52:46

Grandchildren get loads of eggs, so rather than add to the pile, I like to get them something that isn't edible, but reflects Easter, eg home made soft chick or bunny, Easter story book, that sort of thing. DH gets a chocolate egg as no-one else would give him one, AC would get a packet of seeds, a primula or something to reflect new life. We have hot cross buns after the Good Friday service, and believe it or not, on Easter Day after church, turkey and the second Christmas pudding made in October. That tradition started by my mother, and everyone expects it now. I only spend a couple of pounds on each present, it is not a re-run of Christmas, but it is something to celebrate!

Singlegrannie Sun 03-Mar-19 16:54:51

Last sentence should read : I have to send by post or via my daughter and son in law. Would have no problem with small gifts if we were seeing each other.

mcem Sun 03-Mar-19 17:01:20

Thinking about ageing with type 2 diabetes would seem to be a good way to explain why you don't choose to continue exchanging chocolates and, while you're at it, say that from now on you'll focus on the children.
Can't understand 5 years of diabetics swapping chocolates!

Singlegrannie Sun 03-Mar-19 17:14:03

I agree with you mcem ! But there are three of them in their household to eat the chocolate and only me in mine. Won't have the opportunity to start a conversation about it though.

BlueBelle Sun 03-Mar-19 17:30:09

Nothing for adults
When they were small an Easter egg, now as teens a tenner
Don’t complicate life

phoenix Sun 03-Mar-19 17:32:48

I think I may have a possible answer to this.

For years, when I was with ex husband, we would receive awful (but we'll meant) Christmas gifts from his mother and his 2 sisters.

It got so bad, that if we were having to open the presents in front of them, we would (prior to artival) toss a coin to decide who had to do it, and express "delight" at the contents!

One year, in plenty of time, I took the bull by the horns and suggested that we all just buy for the little ones. No one complained, and in fact, I think they were all quite relieved.

None more than me, no more unwrapping awful glitter type pictures of tigers, smoked brown sherry glasses, or an indescribable wooden object that vaguely resembled a pineapple, and was supposed to be "useful" for serving accompanied for curry confused

So, Singlegrannie you may have left it too late for this year, but once you have received and sent the gifts that both parties don't really want or need, just say "thank you so much, but next year shall we just buy for the children ?"

BlueBelle Sun 03-Mar-19 17:39:57

Pressed the button too soon I don’t understand why people go along with things they re not happy or comfortable with
Why on earth would two women with diabetes swap chocolate eggs !
You don’t have to start a conversation at all or make excuses etc send them a nice Easter card and that will start a new tradition of not sending you chocolate that you don’t really want

TerriBull Sun 03-Mar-19 17:41:07

Well I guess we are all different, presents at Easter confused just why?

Easter eggs for the children in the family, sorry but I don't think we need an excuse to go and buy more unnecessary stuff in an already over consumerised age.

Singlegrannie Sun 03-Mar-19 17:41:52

You made me laugh Phoenix, I will follow your advice if it seems appropriate, but they do love giving gifts and I am told that they have been upset by such suggestions before . Hey ho !!

TerriBull Sun 03-Mar-19 17:43:47

Think that came out wrong we buy eggs for the children but wouldn't contemplate buying adult members of the family anything at Easter.

Yeah agree with BlueBell, I wouldn't go along with it.

Singlegrannie Sun 03-Mar-19 17:47:54

Bluebelle, only one of us isn't happy with it !
I am considering just the card, though I don't send Easter cards to anyone else.

phoenix Sun 03-Mar-19 17:49:50

Ok, if they insist on giving gifts, then why not a simple bunch of spring flowers?

PS sorry about the typos in the post of 17.32, tablet has a mind of its own, will be glad to get the desktop pc fixed, if it can be sad

Singlegrannie Sun 03-Mar-19 17:54:10

Phoenix, flowers won't work because they don't live nearby and I won't be seeing them !

ayse Sun 03-Mar-19 17:54:23

The adults don’t do eggs at all. My older grandchildren receive £5 each that they can spend on anything they fancy. My two youngest who live nearby are different because they’ve always lived close. When they were very small I bought two empty painted tin eggs for reuse every year, just as my mother did for me. This year the have a tiny box of mini eggs, a small chocolate bunny, tiny egg containing smarties and some new hair slides each. I’m also planning to make some hair bands or similar with scrap fabric. These little gifts go in an Easter painted tin bucket, padded out with tissue paper. Mum and Dad can then control the amount of chocolate they have and the other gifts last longer. The eggs and buckets are returned for use next year.
When they are bigger, I expect they will receive money or jewellery as a token.
TBH, if I was expected to give to the adults I think I’d have to decline to join in. Christmas and Birthdays are enough.

Singlegrannie Sun 03-Mar-19 18:29:52

Trouble is ayse that the first present is received without prior notice !

mcem Sun 03-Mar-19 19:10:39

Send a card containing your message well in advance.

M0nica Sun 03-Mar-19 19:17:57

No presents at all, nor cards either. Just a small Easter egg to each family member and that is it.

paddyann Sun 03-Mar-19 19:38:52

Everybody gets an egg ,adults and children alike .No presents because March and April have 11 birthdays and anniversaries between them to buy presents for and thats plenty .

Jalima1108 Sun 03-Mar-19 19:55:30

Same here paddyann, but even so bunnies and eggs are traditional (pagan) gifts.

SpringyChicken Sun 03-Mar-19 20:43:01

Your daughter needs to help you out here and tell her inlaws to leave you out of the Easter gifts. She just has to explain that it's not a tradition in your family, only children qualify. If they are reasonable people, they won't take offence. It shouldn't be a big deal.