First, so sorry for your illness and hope you are doing better now.
Secondly, very sorry, also, that dh was bitten by that nasty dog, and hope he's ok.
It sounds as if you have managed to maintain a good relationship with dil all these years if she felt comfortable asking you to host her parents. I'm not sure what she meant when she said that her parents would come back to you already "fed" in the evening. Since she apparently didn't opt to cook, she either expected them to cook for themselves (as they did the first night), hoped ds would cook for them, or expected them to eat out. Or she was just saying that to get you to say yes. Who knows? I'm sorry she told you and her mum two different reasons for not taking that job. I'm sure she had her reasons for each story, but, clearly, one of them wasn't true. Her mum shouldn't have told you that she griped about ds though. It's her mum who was out of line there, imo.
Iv heard of ebf (exclusive breastfeeding - no solid foods, just breastmilk) but not up to 2 years old. As long as gd seems to be healthy, however, that's not up to you. Neither are their sleeping arrangements or whether or not they get enough sleep. It's not fair, imo, that they lay their fatigue issues on you, though, if they're not willing to do anything about them. From now on, I would just say something sympathetic ("Aww) and change the subject.
I agree with others that you should simply not host dil's parents again. Imo, you don't have to make up an excuse, just say no, it doesn't work for you, and stick to your guns. It's very kind of you to care about how dil misses her mum, but they can pay for lodging, surely. And definitely don't let their dogs in your house. They'll know why.
Like others, I hope you're not doing Easter lunch at your house. Better to make reservations and all go out to eat. No fuss, no muss, no work falling all on one or two people, yet you'll still have a good meal and enjoy yourselves. Or just celebrate Easter at home with dh and let them have Easter to themselves with baby. Either way, imo, everyone will be more relaxed.
Take care of yourself...
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