Next door neighbour pushing my fence panel over

Alexa

Blondenana I shall not ask where you live, but a dear friend moved to a town like that. In ten years she did not make one friend despite being the kind of person who dropped into a desert would have 10 friends and a good party going in 24 hours. She joined and volunteered for a range of groups but was always marginalised.

She was talking to a local man, who was doing some decorating for her about this and he agreed. He said his wife came from a town 20 miles away and even though they had been married 10 years all her friends were in her home town, she had made no friends in the town she now lived. They were now moving elsewhere

My friend could not afford to move as she had sold up in the south to move to this town as it was the only place she could afford a house after being made redundant into early retirement.

She died of cancer in her mid 60s, brought on I am convinced by loneliness and unhappiness. The funeral was held in the local church. Everyone there was from the area she previously lived in, although almost all had travelled 200 miles to be there.

MOnica it sounds very much like where i live, all the towns on this coast are very much the same,
It doesnt really bother me, but i am not like that,and its strange but when people do talk to me i get theitr life stories,usually when i am on a bus, but usually they are not from here either
I can make friends with anyone,my 2 youngest sons were born here, but obviously went to school here too, so have lots of friends
I dont let it get me down, as i have my family ,but i do understand why your friend felt isolated, cant understand it
I was speaking to someone from the london area recently and he said he was in a queue in Morrisons with his wife and on hearing his accent someone said, we dont like southerners here,how rude was that
Also a young girl was looking for a flat,only 2 weeks ago, she came from Sheffield i think for work,and the owner of a flat she looked at said i dont let to foreigners, she was very upset, i got a similiar response when i first moved to this town looking for somewhere,i was told not to bother as i wouldnt get anywhere private,

Also speaking to a policeman friend of my son, he said this town is riddled with paedophiles and drugs
I know there are a lot of drugs about everywhere these days, and i know of at 3 least paedos in the next 2 streets to me and one in my street, but all in prison of course now,where they should be

Personally, I think you were very kind to chop your tree because they wanted more light. They should be grateful, not complaining that you didn’t do it to their standards.

Summerlove sorry just seen your post,thank you, i think i have got some not very nice replies when i have exlained the situation several times, and things were fine before i had the b----y tree chopped, lol
I think they both might not be very well, , but i cant do anything else
I am willing to let them come and see the tree on my side if they wish

blondenana you’re welcome.

I just cannot understand even asking my neighbor to chop down their tree because it is affecting the light in my yard. That’s part of having neighbours. Now, If the tree were perilously close to their roof or otherwise impeding a structure, that of course is different. What’s next, complaining they don’t like your flowers?

I think at this point you are right to just step back and let them shout at the wind.

Thank you,I didnt mind at all that they mentioned the tree cutting the sun out of their garden,it wouldnt affect the light in their house,they didnt ask me to cut it down, but obviously when they mentioned it i hadnt realised ,so when the birds had stopped nesting i made enquiries about have the height reduced, but i didnt realise that the man wouldnt cut it all round,if you see what i mean, as far as my light out it was just the tree was growing outwards, across my window, so yes i had some of that cut off,it was the only part that bothered me,the height didnt because of the position the sun was in that didnt affect me
Anyway i hadnt seen them for a few days,but my daughter called to give me lift into town this morning, and they were both in their fron garden, which i couldnt see as my living room is at the back of the house where the tree is,when they saw my daughter they went in she said, and were not outside when i went out
I rarely see them really because of the way the living rooms are, not looking out on to the road,it is very enclosed and lots of trees and high hedges, so you cant really see your neighbours unless you are both out at the same time in the front garden, cant see anyone when in the back garden,so unlikely to be out at the same time
They ould normally say hello to my daughter ,but ignored her, so i am not going to bother about it now